Respondent 574

Does patriarchy exist?

Yes

How would you define patriarchy?

Social and political system where white men are the normal state of being human, other people abnormal in some way and usually deficient because of it.

How has patriarchy hurt you?

Spend a lot of time supporting valued colleagues who need to jump hoops I don’t have to. Dealing with men who want me to support them to detriment of friends and colleagues out of male solidarity. Not being able to be friendly or helpful to people I don’t know because they are (rightly!) suspicious of strange men.

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

Definitely and mostly because it’s particularly hard to be a male teenager and not know how much power you have until it goes wrong. Once you realise it, it’s pretty obvious though.

How would you define masculinity?

Masculinity is a natural social identity influenced by having a male body PLUS the politics, power and history that goes with it

Does misandry exist?

Maybe

I guess if someone said they were a misandrist I’d not question their judgement

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

Yes

people assuming I am head of the household when I’m not… jobs where managers have ignored me because they’re too busy flirting or even harassing colleagues (this is frequent)

What best describes you?

Nice guy

I don’t know if men can be feminists but I hope I’m a nice guy (: