About the show: Dave Pickering takes us on a personal journey through gender as he tries to explain masculinity both to you and to himself. Part true storytelling, part TED talk and part apology, the show looks at how the patriarchy hurts men too; how the patriarchy has hurt him, and how he has hurt people because of patriarchy. Drawing on an anonymous survey of 1000 men, feminist theory, internet memes and his life experience, Dave will explain the conclusions he Read More ...
Does patriarchy exist?
How would you define patriarchy?
The structure of gender roles and the categorisation of people for the purposes of control and promoting desired consumption.
How has patriarchy hurt you?
It is a bit annoying that when we bought a house, my wife was “purchaser number 2” to the lawyer, despite her paying all the bills. The other side of this is that I am now “parent number 2” in life and in media, as everyone assumes I am scared of nappies and am “baby-sitting” my son.
How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?
Probably countless ways. I remember I used the wrong pronoun when speaking to a transgender woman on Twitter and that must have been horrible. But the beauty of the patriarchy from this side is that I don’t really have to deal with most of my mistakes.
How would you define masculinity?
It’s about possessing physical strength while ignoring your body. It’s about being well-rounded while never seeming to try to do anything. It’s about obsessing over hobbies while remaining aloof.
Does misandry exist?
I’m sure that it’s a possible reaction to patriarchy and not an illogical one. I’ve never experienced it, however.
Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?
Negatively: “Mother and baby” stuff. Positively: loads of times. In a meeting, people will talk to me, rather than to a female colleague, for example.
What best describes you?
None of the above
I just really like people and don’t want to see them limited by societal structures.