About the show: Dave Pickering takes us on a personal journey through gender as he tries to explain masculinity both to you and to himself. Part true storytelling, part TED talk and part apology, the show looks at how the patriarchy hurts men too; how the patriarchy has hurt him, and how he has hurt people because of patriarchy. Drawing on an anonymous survey of 1000 men, feminist theory, internet memes and his life experience, Dave will explain the conclusions he Read More ...
Does patriarchy exist?
How would you define patriarchy?
Society at large being geared towards the sole interests of men at the expense of women. Women being treated as second class citizens whose lived experiences are invalid. Enforcement of ‘traditional’ gender roles at a broader level.
How has patriarchy hurt you?
In my own personal thoughts I tend to viewing women as sexual objects. I assess every woman that I see as a sexual partner despite being acutely aware that this is not only stupid but deeply misogynistic. This causes me to have anxiety while speaking to women who I do find attractive that I don’t know in some personal way. I tend not to treat women any differently based on this attraction.
How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?
I have some pretty bad insecurities in my relationship. This causes me to influence how my girlfriend dresses because I worry about how other men will perceive her, much in the same way that I do to other women. It has caused some strain to our relationship in the past.
How would you define masculinity?
I’m not really sure. The Breaking Bad scene with Gus Fring where he tells Walter White that “a man provides” spoke to me at the time (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R7ZHLppS5_w) but the sentiment doesn’t necessarily exclude women. I guess masculinity would be better defined as utilising your privilege to help others without it, while at the same time willingly giving up your own when you can.
Does misandry exist?
It exists as a concept, since there’s a word for it, but I think it is seriously overstated by MRA’s and their ilk.
Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?
I can only assume so, but I can’t think of any particular instances.
What best describes you?