About the show: Dave Pickering takes us on a personal journey through gender as he tries to explain masculinity both to you and to himself. Part true storytelling, part TED talk and part apology, the show looks at how the patriarchy hurts men too; how the patriarchy has hurt him, and how he has hurt people because of patriarchy. Drawing on an anonymous survey of 1000 men, feminist theory, internet memes and his life experience, Dave will explain the conclusions he Read More ...
Does patriarchy exist?
How would you define patriarchy?
A system in which men are the primary power holders – either enforced through the violence of the state or through social norms (often reinforced by the actions of the state)
How has patriarchy hurt you?
Subtly (and less subtly) altered my views on the correct roles for women and men in work, society and relationships – leading to changes in my behaviour. Reinforced attitudes to male behaviour and male/female and male/male relationships
How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?
I have subconsciously viewed women as less important or serious than men and my relationships with them have been influenced by this
How would you define masculinity?
Masculinity is values attached to maleness – whatever those are in current social conditions. I suppose a common core is strength and robustness – values that are valuable in any circumstance if used correctly.
Does misandry exist?
I think that there may be a form of misandry embedded within modern capitalism, where workers are inherently disposable. This combined with patriarchal attitudes to wage earning and certain jobs in some ways creates a situation where men are more disposable.
Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?
Only in a way that has advantaged me
I have seen my voice taken more seriously than my colleagues because I am a man.
What best describes you?
An ally to feminism
I am not a front-line activist, and I feel some discomfort in both adopting the label for myself of a women’s movement, but also in labelling myself anything as a noun (I would not say I am a ‘Brit’ for instance)