About the show: Dave Pickering takes us on a personal journey through gender as he tries to explain masculinity both to you and to himself. Part true storytelling, part TED talk and part apology, the show looks at how the patriarchy hurts men too; how the patriarchy has hurt him, and how he has hurt people because of patriarchy. Drawing on an anonymous survey of 1000 men, feminist theory, internet memes and his life experience, Dave will explain the conclusions he Read More ...
Does patriarchy exist?
How would you define patriarchy?
Male domination in society, socially, economically, over family life. Systems and traditions shaped for the benefit of men to the detriment of women.
How has patriarchy hurt you?
Expectations of being “manly”, not encouraged to share feelings, idea that when I have children I’d not be primary carer, though it doesn’t hurt men anywhere near as much as women, it still limits us.
How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?
During my teenage years I probably felt I had to act up in a way expected of boys/men, said demeaning things about women and girls, treated some girls badly thinking it was “manly” etc. I probably still say sexist things at times and act in a discriminatory way towards women without thinking, though I definitely try not to.
How would you define masculinity?
A creation of a patriarchal society to ensure men continue to dominate and hold the bulk of the power.
Does misandry exist?
Whilst some women may well hate men, I class misandry as the same as “reverse racism”, it’s not something which exists. The oppressed may hate their oppressors, but they aren’t the ones with the power.
Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?
What best describes you?
An ally to feminism