Respondent 486

Does patriarchy exist?

Yes

How would you define patriarchy?

Male domination in society, socially, economically, over family life. Systems and traditions shaped for the benefit of men to the detriment of women.

How has patriarchy hurt you?

Expectations of being “manly”, not encouraged to share feelings, idea that when I have children I’d not be primary carer, though it doesn’t hurt men anywhere near as much as women, it still limits us.

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

During my teenage years I probably felt I had to act up in a way expected of boys/men, said demeaning things about women and girls, treated some girls badly thinking it was “manly” etc. I probably still say sexist things at times and act in a discriminatory way towards women without thinking, though I definitely try not to.

How would you define masculinity?

A creation of a patriarchal society to ensure men continue to dominate and hold the bulk of the power.

Does misandry exist?

No

Whilst some women may well hate men, I class misandry as the same as “reverse racism”, it’s not something which exists. The oppressed may hate their oppressors, but they aren’t the ones with the power.

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

No

What best describes you?

An ally to feminism