About the show: Dave Pickering takes us on a personal journey through gender as he tries to explain masculinity both to you and to himself. Part true storytelling, part TED talk and part apology, the show looks at how the patriarchy hurts men too; how the patriarchy has hurt him, and how he has hurt people because of patriarchy. Drawing on an anonymous survey of 1000 men, feminist theory, internet memes and his life experience, Dave will explain the conclusions he Read More ...
Does patriarchy exist?
How would you define patriarchy?
A structure of social relations that keeps men (in particular white, European men from the ‘right’ families) in power, through both direct use of that power and more subtle cultural indoctrination (i.e. that it is ‘normal’, or sowing fear of the alternatives)
How has patriarchy hurt you?
Not much directly, since I’ve been lucky enough to be born near the top of the pyramid. So mainly through the way it hurts people I know and care about.
How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?
By assuming that certain things are mine by right, without considering that they’re not available to others. By not considering how my actions affect those around me. And by not doing enough about these things, because I’m comfortable.
How would you define masculinity?
A historical-cultural construct that defines how men ‘should’ behave (as contrasted with femininity for women), and is used to justify the status quo.
Does misandry exist?
It’s not women oppressing men, but men and boys being forced into certain roles by patriarchy. It’s on a much lesser scale than misogyny, but patriarchy is bad for the vast majority of men too.
Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?
Only in a way that has advantaged me
What best describes you?
I’d just describe myself as a feminist, without hedging, but I don’t pretend to be able to define anyone else’s status: it just seems to fit with how I see the world.