About the show: Dave Pickering takes us on a personal journey through gender as he tries to explain masculinity both to you and to himself. Part true storytelling, part TED talk and part apology, the show looks at how the patriarchy hurts men too; how the patriarchy has hurt him, and how he has hurt people because of patriarchy. Drawing on an anonymous survey of 1000 men, feminist theory, internet memes and his life experience, Dave will explain the conclusions he Read More ...
Does patriarchy exist?
How would you define patriarchy?
“Patriarchy” is an umbrella term encompassing all the numerous ways in which our societies are structured to provide advantages and convenience to men, often at the expense of women.
How has patriarchy hurt you?
Patriarchy is inherently inefficient and harmful in far too many ways to list. For me personally the problems fall into two broad categories: * Disadvantaging and harming – mentally, physically and materially – the women I interact with. This indirectly harms me both emotionally and practically (for example, if a man is appointed to be my boss over a woman who would do a better job). * Systemic weakness means everyone in our society is substantially worse off, both economically and in terms of quality of life.
How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?
I would imagine that for the first 20 or so years of my life I was essentially supporting patriarchy, albeit unknowingly. As such I bear some share of responsibility for all its harms. Subsequently I gradually fixed various broken behaviours (especially my prior tendency to consider our systems of education and employment meritocratic). However, it’s reasonable to assume I still hurt people via the mechanisms of patriarchy, I just don’t know in what ways because I’m still to some extent unaware of them or in denial about them.
How would you define masculinity?
At an individual level, the conscious and subconscious classifiers used to assign male gender to a person. This leads to a second meaning in which the modal ideas about masculinity across our society form a de-facto canonical concept of masculinity which we are all aware of to some degree.
Does misandry exist?
Misandry exists in the most literal sense, but because the power dynamic of our society favours men it doesn’t and never could have the same impact as misogyny.
Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?
I am the primary carer for my children.
What best describes you?
None of the above
If I were labelled as a feminist by a third party I would consider it a compliment, but I dislike the tribalism that use of labels engenders and wish everyone would stop.