About the show: Dave Pickering takes us on a personal journey through gender as he tries to explain masculinity both to you and to himself. Part true storytelling, part TED talk and part apology, the show looks at how the patriarchy hurts men too; how the patriarchy has hurt him, and how he has hurt people because of patriarchy. Drawing on an anonymous survey of 1000 men, feminist theory, internet memes and his life experience, Dave will explain the conclusions he Read More ...
Does patriarchy exist?
How would you define patriarchy?
The systematic favoring of men, particularly white men, in society.
How has patriarchy hurt you?
Patriarchy mainly hurts men in how it limits their acceptable behavior. This results in a lot of actions related to questions 4 and 5.
How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?
Patriarchy taught me that in a relationship with a woman I was owed sex. Patriarchy is hightened within the Mormon church. Although we left the church together, lingering poisonous ideas allowed me to justify the manipulation and suffering I caused my ex-wife. Although I was in the process of correcting my thinking and behavior, the damage was too deep. This lead to our divorce.
How would you define masculinity?
I would define Masculinity as the narrow set of acceptable behavior set for men by the patriarchy. It is a tool to attack men who do not conform to keeping the patriarchy in power. Men who exhibit behavior outside of that set are often labelled as gay or compared to women, as if those were bad things to be. This also leads to a lot of the “boys will be boys” defenses that allow many men to get away with some serious bullshit.
Does misandry exist?
Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?
Only in a way that has advantaged me
What best describes you?
An ally to feminism