About the show: Dave Pickering takes us on a personal journey through gender as he tries to explain masculinity both to you and to himself. Part true storytelling, part TED talk and part apology, the show looks at how the patriarchy hurts men too; how the patriarchy has hurt him, and how he has hurt people because of patriarchy. Drawing on an anonymous survey of 1000 men, feminist theory, internet memes and his life experience, Dave will explain the conclusions he Read More ...
Does patriarchy exist?
How would you define patriarchy?
The systematic putting down of every woman, of every colour, and gender (including trans). The belief that somehow men are better, and more deserving, and women are supposedly supposed to be subservient.
How has patriarchy hurt you?
By definition, it can’t. I benefit from it. Even now, typing this on my own in my room, I benefit from it. I don’t want to. It hurts me only through hurting women that I care about.
How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?
I really hope I haven’t. I know I was certainly a massive prick as a teenager. I can be pushy, and reactive, and very blunt (to everyone) and SO many times I will immediately want to retract things I have literally just said. Patriarchy means I’m generally let off
How would you define masculinity?
I define it as …something I’ve never been sure I am. To me, it’s sport (more accurately a liking for sport, whether you play or not) and, thinking a stag night needs strippers and humiliation. I’m not a fan.
Does misandry exist?
I certainly have a dislike for certain types of men, so I guess I am a misandrist that way. As orgainised oppression, the equal of patriarchy, no it doesn’t
Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?
Possibly. Nothing that I can specifically point to, though that may mean I was just unaware of it.
What best describes you?