About the show: Dave Pickering takes us on a personal journey through gender as he tries to explain masculinity both to you and to himself. Part true storytelling, part TED talk and part apology, the show looks at how the patriarchy hurts men too; how the patriarchy has hurt him, and how he has hurt people because of patriarchy. Drawing on an anonymous survey of 1000 men, feminist theory, internet memes and his life experience, Dave will explain the conclusions he Read More ...
Does patriarchy exist?
How would you define patriarchy?
Men being dicks, getting away with it, asserting control over the political system, and treating women like second class citizens.
How has patriarchy hurt you?
It’s never directly hurt me. My ex-wife had a sexist boss that would read EVERYONE’s email at the company. So, that was fun, we figured that out later.
How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?
I try really hard to treat everyone the same. Unless it’s a woman I think I can sleep with, and then I’m conflicted. (did you want honesty? maybe not this honest?)
How would you define masculinity?
You know that scene in fight club where Tyler Durden gets on the bus and sees the Calvin Klein underwear ad, and says “Is that what a Real Man looks like?” That’s masculinity. Men basically have a primal need to feel better than other men.
Does misandry exist?
I’ve experienced this as a student. Instructor was my age, had ex-BF my age. She hated me on sight.
Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?
Only on a college campus.
What best describes you?
An ally to feminism
I was sexually abused by a male relative at age 13.