About the show: Dave Pickering takes us on a personal journey through gender as he tries to explain masculinity both to you and to himself. Part true storytelling, part TED talk and part apology, the show looks at how the patriarchy hurts men too; how the patriarchy has hurt him, and how he has hurt people because of patriarchy. Drawing on an anonymous survey of 1000 men, feminist theory, internet memes and his life experience, Dave will explain the conclusions he Read More ...
Does patriarchy exist?
How would you define patriarchy?
A society that is built up around the idea that men are superior and should be leaders, whether it’s conscious or not.
How has patriarchy hurt you?
Expectations of maleness, especially in an all-boys school, hampering my ability to communicate with other men about my problems seriously. Also didn’t help when I tried to explore non-traditionally male activities.
How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?
Growing up in a fairly liberal household and area, I was not able to fully appreciate my privilege and the experiences of other women. I’ve downplayed the experiences of other women in favour of my own.
How would you define masculinity?
A weirdly rigid set of rules defining what you can or cannot do to be manly, centred around activities that require little to no empathy and a lifestyle of little emotion.
Does misandry exist?
There probably are women that just hate men for being men, but I don’t think it’s a problem or a phrase to just throw around
Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?
I genuinely can’t think of anything off the top of my head
What best describes you?
I know some women don’t think men can be true feminists, so to respect their wishes I would refer to myself as an ally to them