About the show: Dave Pickering takes us on a personal journey through gender as he tries to explain masculinity both to you and to himself. Part true storytelling, part TED talk and part apology, the show looks at how the patriarchy hurts men too; how the patriarchy has hurt him, and how he has hurt people because of patriarchy. Drawing on an anonymous survey of 1000 men, feminist theory, internet memes and his life experience, Dave will explain the conclusions he Read More ...
Does patriarchy exist?
How would you define patriarchy?
I see patriarchy as part of the kyriarchy – a series of intersecting and interlocking power structures and internalised attitudes and privileges that oppress women and minorities.
How has patriarchy hurt you?
First and foremost, I feel prevented from properly expressing my queer identity without fear. Secondarily, I feel my white male privilege prevents me from authentically communicating with other members of oppressed classes on certain topics.
How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?
I don’t know. That’s why privilege is a problem.
How would you define masculinity?
I feel very disconnected from any kind of ‘macho’ idea of masculinity and I see displays of this kind of behavior as if I was an outsider. I guess other parts of me than my ‘male-ness’ are more important to me. I guess masculinity just isn’t very relevant to me.
Does misandry exist?
Well, I think it’s certainly possible to hate men, but this isn’t widespread or institutionalized like misogyny. I simply don’t think that misandry is an interesting or important phenomenon.
Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?
As a white cis man who is often perceived to be straight, I sometimes feel uncomfortable in queer spaces. Perhaps this is a personal hang-up though.
What best describes you?
Also an egalitarian, except that doesn’t have much to do with feminism, imo.