About the show: Dave Pickering takes us on a personal journey through gender as he tries to explain masculinity both to you and to himself. Part true storytelling, part TED talk and part apology, the show looks at how the patriarchy hurts men too; how the patriarchy has hurt him, and how he has hurt people because of patriarchy. Drawing on an anonymous survey of 1000 men, feminist theory, internet memes and his life experience, Dave will explain the conclusions he Read More ...
Does patriarchy exist?
How would you define patriarchy?
a society or class [as in classification rather than economic] structure where there is a predominant male hierarchy or dominance in seniority / rule
How has patriarchy hurt you?
i don’t know if it necessarily has, but rather i think there may be a knock on effect of being a man in a patriarchal society where dominance and machismo is ‘important’, or often used as a weapon / tactic in asserting seniority. I’m a shortish chap and don’t exercise for shit, so I’m often treated differently to people who might perhaps be taller and fitter – i definitely have encountered tall men who assume seniority and rank, due to height rather than anything genuinely intelligence or experience based. Tall men can genuinely be dicks a lot of the time; although equally the short man syndrome thing also exists and those shorter than me (i’m 5′ 8″ so ‘average’) and nearer the five foot fuck all territory are often equally irritating and obnoxious
How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?
i don’t think i have, genuinely.
How would you define masculinity?
as an embodiment of those things which are traditionally aligned to being ‘a man’ [or rather ‘a Man’]. Traditional perceptions being those shaped by classical literature and art alongside society – so things like physique, prowess, looks etc
Does misandry exist?
it certainly exists, but to what extent is open to conjecture – there’s been a rising surge of people on the lookout for male dominance, and almost confirmation bias seeking for areas where women are not treated as equally as men – and rightly so, for a genuinely fair and equal society. However, I do genuinely feel that sometimes this has bordered on misandry and that men are increasingly being targeted for the slightest misdemeanor and those misdemeanors being called out for something they’re not; i.e. misogony when it might just be stupidity.
Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?
i don’t think so – at least nothing springs to mind. I work in an industry (PR) which is actually quite gender balanced with, if anything, a higher proportion of women working in it.
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