About the show: Dave Pickering takes us on a personal journey through gender as he tries to explain masculinity both to you and to himself. Part true storytelling, part TED talk and part apology, the show looks at how the patriarchy hurts men too; how the patriarchy has hurt him, and how he has hurt people because of patriarchy. Drawing on an anonymous survey of 1000 men, feminist theory, internet memes and his life experience, Dave will explain the conclusions he Read More ...
Does patriarchy exist?
How would you define patriarchy?
A system of social, economic and political hierarchy in which males hold a disproportionate position of power compared to females and actively perpetuate that status quo.
How has patriarchy hurt you?
This question presupposes the existence of a patriarchy, negating your first question, just sayin’. Patriarchy has hurt me in that as a member of society I suffer as society suffers; great female minds have been held back and have not provided us with the cultural and artistic wonders, scientific breakthroughs or economic leadership that they might have.
How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?
You’re assuming I have? Perhaps by not fighting hard enough against it I have been party to it? In a less direct way – patriarchy has influenced our entire culture in such a way that perhaps it can be blamed for any number of things. As a teenager I made mistakes (using the word ‘gay’ as a pejorative for example) that likely hurt some people’s feelings, you could lay some of the blame for that at ‘patriarchy’s feet.
How would you define masculinity?
How would you define masculinity? A term used to indicate maleness, it has historically been ascribed with personal qualities which men are supposed to possess. I am of the opinion that it is a useless term given that both biological gender and socially constructed gender are not binaries but continuums. I guess your question is actually asking me to ascribe some qualities onto the term but I’d rather not, it’s not an idea I wish to advocate.
Does misandry exist?
Only in extreme cases, it’s barely possible to compare it to misogyny.
Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?
I’ve very probably received the benefits of being a man in a patriarchal, perhaps in job interviews and such I have been favoured above female candidates just because of the existence of my testicles. I didn’t even have to get ’em out or anything.
What best describes you?
I would have preferred an ‘all of the above’ choice. I’m still an egalitarian and a nice guy (I hope!) and don’t think that is contradictory to also being a feminist.