About the show: Dave Pickering takes us on a personal journey through gender as he tries to explain masculinity both to you and to himself. Part true storytelling, part TED talk and part apology, the show looks at how the patriarchy hurts men too; how the patriarchy has hurt him, and how he has hurt people because of patriarchy. Drawing on an anonymous survey of 1000 men, feminist theory, internet memes and his life experience, Dave will explain the conclusions he Read More ...
Does patriarchy exist?
How would you define patriarchy?
Men holding power, and then everyone (male and female) acting in ways that perpetuate/protect that power without realising they’re part of the problem. Rooted in biology, but “natural” does not imply “desirable”. We can do better than nature, as we already do in many other ways. Patriarchy is often resistance to any attempt to challenge nature’s inherent gender bias.
How has patriarchy hurt you?
My female best friend is acutely aware of it and often depressed about it, which upsets me.
How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?
I read feminist writers in my teens and have conciously tried not to perpetuate patriarchy, but I am well paid and successful in software and programmers overwhelmingly male, so I’m benefitting from patriarchy and perpetuating it just by doing my job. Have never encountered ANY female candidates when recruiting programmers. “Programmers are male” seems drummed into kids. Every male programmer is reinforcing that message.
How would you define masculinity?
Physical and personality traits triggered by testosterone, including bigger muscles, heightened sex drive, combative/confrontational/competitive attitude to other men, desire to be “in charge” resulting in status anxiety, obsessiveness.
Does misandry exist?
It’s likely to exist as a reaction to the negative impact of masculinity and male dominance, but not very widespread (surprised there isn’t more of it)
Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?
Only in a way that has advantaged me
Miserable/frustrating when your friends are being impacted by something, and you can’t really help
What best describes you?