About the show: Dave Pickering takes us on a personal journey through gender as he tries to explain masculinity both to you and to himself. Part true storytelling, part TED talk and part apology, the show looks at how the patriarchy hurts men too; how the patriarchy has hurt him, and how he has hurt people because of patriarchy. Drawing on an anonymous survey of 1000 men, feminist theory, internet memes and his life experience, Dave will explain the conclusions he Read More ...
Does patriarchy exist?
How would you define patriarchy?
A male dominated power hierarchy that favours those who fit its narrow profile of acceptability and suppresses anyone who doesn’t fit. Its basic message is conform or you don’t get fed, i.e. don’t do different.
How has patriarchy hurt you?
Generally, it hurts because the system hurts the planet, hurts the environment I live in. Personally, I’ve worked for patriarchal companies which have refused to recognise who I was because I didn’t fit their acceptable profiles resulting in me being stifled. This nly changed when I had a manager who was a woman – three best managers had were all women.
How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?
Yes. The patriarchal mindset surrounds you growing up and I took on some of their attitudes growing up and I know I have hurt people in the past because of this. I hurt my sisters because my parents had different expectations of me compared to them so I was given more encouragement & attention and I did not challenge this.Since I have become aware of the patriarchy’s insidious influence I have been working hard to divest myself of it (& my associated white male priviledge).
How would you define masculinity?
I don’t think this is possible in anyway that makes sense or is not divisive. Any attempt just ends up as labelling. It has certainly nothing to do with what chromosomes you were born with. Humanity exists on a gender spectrum.
Does misandry exist?
Well, only in the minds of men who feel their male priviledge is more important than true equality. Anything that threatens this is perceived as misandry, but it is a phantom condition which has no true existence.
Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?
Only in a way that has advantaged me
I’ve had advantages given to me simply because of being a white male.
What best describes you?
in training (work in progress)