Respondent 34

Does patriarchy exist?

Yes

How would you define patriarchy?

The world we live in and its history of being structured and governed by and for men.

How has patriarchy hurt you?

It leads to things perceived as ‘feminine’ being ridiculed, which forces society into a place of mocking those who don’t exhibit the ‘correct’ traits, which leads to me having to police my own behaviour regarding my camp mannerisms and uninterest in sports etc. I mean, that’s comparitively ‘minor’ stuff, but it’s difficult to properly equate the full effect, given that we’ve never known anything other than patriarchy, and so most problems are a result of it, either directly or indirectly.

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

Once again, difficult to quantify, really. I know I’ve been sexist in the past in a way I am now ashamed of. I know I’ve said flippant things in jest to fit in with ‘the lads’, which are harmful. Like most humans, I’ve hurt people in a variety of ways over the years, and I’m sure some of that behaviour has been influenced by the omnipresence of patriarchy, and growing up a male in a world that has favoured males for quite some time. Which isn’t to say I don’t take personal responsibility for my actions!

How would you define masculinity?

“manly men being manly, but not too manly, ‘cos that’s gay, eh?” I have no sensible definition of masculinity that doesn’t sound bitter and angry.

Does misandry exist?

No

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

Only in a way that has advantaged me

What best describes you?

An ally to feminism