About the show: Dave Pickering takes us on a personal journey through gender as he tries to explain masculinity both to you and to himself. Part true storytelling, part TED talk and part apology, the show looks at how the patriarchy hurts men too; how the patriarchy has hurt him, and how he has hurt people because of patriarchy. Drawing on an anonymous survey of 1000 men, feminist theory, internet memes and his life experience, Dave will explain the conclusions he Read More ...
Does patriarchy exist?
How would you define patriarchy?
The world we live in and its history of being structured and governed by and for men.
How has patriarchy hurt you?
It leads to things perceived as ‘feminine’ being ridiculed, which forces society into a place of mocking those who don’t exhibit the ‘correct’ traits, which leads to me having to police my own behaviour regarding my camp mannerisms and uninterest in sports etc. I mean, that’s comparitively ‘minor’ stuff, but it’s difficult to properly equate the full effect, given that we’ve never known anything other than patriarchy, and so most problems are a result of it, either directly or indirectly.
How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?
Once again, difficult to quantify, really. I know I’ve been sexist in the past in a way I am now ashamed of. I know I’ve said flippant things in jest to fit in with ‘the lads’, which are harmful. Like most humans, I’ve hurt people in a variety of ways over the years, and I’m sure some of that behaviour has been influenced by the omnipresence of patriarchy, and growing up a male in a world that has favoured males for quite some time. Which isn’t to say I don’t take personal responsibility for my actions!
How would you define masculinity?
“manly men being manly, but not too manly, ‘cos that’s gay, eh?” I have no sensible definition of masculinity that doesn’t sound bitter and angry.
Does misandry exist?
Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?
Only in a way that has advantaged me
What best describes you?
An ally to feminism