About the show: Dave Pickering takes us on a personal journey through gender as he tries to explain masculinity both to you and to himself. Part true storytelling, part TED talk and part apology, the show looks at how the patriarchy hurts men too; how the patriarchy has hurt him, and how he has hurt people because of patriarchy. Drawing on an anonymous survey of 1000 men, feminist theory, internet memes and his life experience, Dave will explain the conclusions he Read More ...
Does patriarchy exist?
How would you define patriarchy?
The systematic oppression of women and GLBT people by (mostly) white cis-heterossexual males. It’s a system so ingrained on society’s mores as to be almost automatic and nearly imperceptible, unless you know where to look or when it’s blatant and/ or violent.
How has patriarchy hurt you?
Growing up as a male, I was told I shouldn’t express my emotions; and that I should expect women to behave in certain ways; and several other little things. Then I realized how wrong that was and have been trying to make amends ever since.
How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?
I often expected girls to return my affections and became angry when they didn’t. Though I was never physically violent, I have, on one occasion, made improper advances toward a friend to the point she was uncomfortable. That, I think, was the turning point for me.
How would you define masculinity?
The state or condition of identifying with the male gender. Nothing more.
Does misandry exist?
I don’t discount the existence of misandry as one person or persons hating men for their innate condition and/or gender identity. But misandry as a systematic quality? As a coordinated attempt by certain segments of society to hate, demean and destroy men? No, not at all.
Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?
Only in a way that has advantaged me
What best describes you?
An ally to feminism
I should say I’m a feminist, but I don’t want to be accused of stealing protagonism, etc. So I’m pleased to describe myself as an ally.