Respondent 261

Does patriarchy exist?

Yes

How would you define patriarchy?

The systematic oppression of women and GLBT people by (mostly) white cis-heterossexual males. It’s a system so ingrained on society’s mores as to be almost automatic and nearly imperceptible, unless you know where to look or when it’s blatant and/ or violent.

How has patriarchy hurt you?

Growing up as a male, I was told I shouldn’t express my emotions; and that I should expect women to behave in certain ways; and several other little things. Then I realized how wrong that was and have been trying to make amends ever since.

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

I often expected girls to return my affections and became angry when they didn’t. Though I was never physically violent, I have, on one occasion, made improper advances toward a friend to the point she was uncomfortable. That, I think, was the turning point for me.

How would you define masculinity?

The state or condition of identifying with the male gender. Nothing more.

Does misandry exist?

No

I don’t discount the existence of misandry as one person or persons hating men for their innate condition and/or gender identity. But misandry as a systematic quality? As a coordinated attempt by certain segments of society to hate, demean and destroy men? No, not at all.

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

Only in a way that has advantaged me

What best describes you?

An ally to feminism

I should say I’m a feminist, but I don’t want to be accused of stealing protagonism, etc. So I’m pleased to describe myself as an ally.