About the show: Dave Pickering takes us on a personal journey through gender as he tries to explain masculinity both to you and to himself. Part true storytelling, part TED talk and part apology, the show looks at how the patriarchy hurts men too; how the patriarchy has hurt him, and how he has hurt people because of patriarchy. Drawing on an anonymous survey of 1000 men, feminist theory, internet memes and his life experience, Dave will explain the conclusions he Read More ...
Does patriarchy exist?
How would you define patriarchy?
the relation dynamic between the sexes–males being the dominant and the female being the submissive–and the social construction of society. Everything from porn, to movies, to videogames are overwhelmingly directed at us males.
How has patriarchy hurt you?
For one thing its easy, as growing up as a boy, that you get picked on for not being “tough enough” or “man enough”. There is this thought in society that as a male you are expected to be a certain way, macho if you will. It also enables male violence in society that often hurts other men who had the unfortunate run in with the ‘tough’ guys.
How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?
I tried to be a “man” myself for a long time. Of course most of us human males fail to be a man, but that don’t mean we (or I) stop trying. I have probably hurt a few when I never questioned my role as a man in society and was acting very self-centred and not bothered much how my perception of my surrounding for example impacted women.
How would you define masculinity?
dominating, self-centred, aggressive.
Does misandry exist?
It exists but as a social phenomena its not really women hating men–that usually becomes what people claim when this word comes up–but for me its clear its actually happening among us men. Men hates other men all the time but it is so normalized that few cares to talk about it or even think about it. When men beats up, or in oher ways behaves abusive towards, other men its seen as something we men just do. This is misandry being normalized among us.
Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?
What best describes you?