About the show: Dave Pickering takes us on a personal journey through gender as he tries to explain masculinity both to you and to himself. Part true storytelling, part TED talk and part apology, the show looks at how the patriarchy hurts men too; how the patriarchy has hurt him, and how he has hurt people because of patriarchy. Drawing on an anonymous survey of 1000 men, feminist theory, internet memes and his life experience, Dave will explain the conclusions he Read More ...
Does patriarchy exist?
How would you define patriarchy?
A form of organisation of people where the male is considered more important than the female. (By real definition it is where the father leads the family, but expanding that to society: the male is considered more important than the female).
How has patriarchy hurt you?
As a man? It hasn’t exactly. Indeed, I dare say that I have benefited from it more than once. However as I have got older and started seeing the world for what it is I have a certain shame about the fact I am part of this particular problem.
How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?
Tough question this. If the question is: ‘Have I actively used my influence as a man in a patriarchal society?’ then I am not sure I really have – consciously. If it is ‘How has being a man in a patriarchal society led to you hurting people?’ then I have spent too long in my life not really seeing the problem and therefore helping it continue. In doing so I have hurt ‘society’ (I fear this sounds really cheesy).
How would you define masculinity?
I see masculinity as the (generally negative) traits a man has that women tend to have less – aggression, physical strength, a tendency to solve problems with brute force rather than thoughts. These things are often what people see as masculine, it is just some people see them as incredible positive, and I see them as generally pretty negative.
Does misandry exist?
But it is quite different in scale and intensity to misogyny (and is probably a direct response to misogyny rather than anything else)
Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?
Only in a way that has advantaged me
In the working environment I have seen this more than once.
What best describes you?
I sometimes feel a fraud saying it, as I have read a lot about men not being feminists. I am certainly an egalitarian, but as I understand for the main part that is what feminism is. And in a time where feminism seems a dirty word I would rather say I was a feminist and try to promote those values than say I am anything else.