About the show: Dave Pickering takes us on a personal journey through gender as he tries to explain masculinity both to you and to himself. Part true storytelling, part TED talk and part apology, the show looks at how the patriarchy hurts men too; how the patriarchy has hurt him, and how he has hurt people because of patriarchy. Drawing on an anonymous survey of 1000 men, feminist theory, internet memes and his life experience, Dave will explain the conclusions he Read More ...
Does patriarchy exist?
How would you define patriarchy?
A society historically bloomed from a male-centred power structure, culminated in a power and privilege bias towards cis men over women and transgender people.
How has patriarchy hurt you?
I haven’t been acutely damaged by the patriarchy, despite not fitting the mould of the manly man, being a little shorter and weaker than average, unsporty and a bit nerdy. For some reason I never felt the pressure to benchmark myself against the manly blueprint.
How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?
I have an internal bias to treat women less seriously. I am aware of it now and correct for it, much like how when I owned a car with a steering fault that would tend to the left, so I had to hold right to drive straight. It’s an annoyance, and a guilty one, but my brain defaults to accepting women’s authority less easily than I would a man. I wish it wasn’t that way. I can also objectify women quite easily, but am aware of and correct for this too, hopefully.
How would you define masculinity?
That’s difficult. What springs to mind is strong, pack leader type attributes, with stunted emotional connections, a fierceness-cum-violent tendency, a tendency to choose physical force over diplomacy. Again, a bit of a caricature and clich� but it essentially boils down to the opposite of whatever would get you called ‘pussy’ by the bigger boys in the playground.
Does misandry exist?
I answer ‘no’ because even though hatred against men and political/philosophical positions based on hating men do exist, they still exist within a patriarchy and I think this makes it suitably and substantially different to misogyny. Misogyny and Misandry cannot be compared at the same level, much like bias against white people is different from racism.
Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?
Only in a way that has advantaged me
People tend to listen to me more in meetings. And everywhere really.
What best describes you?