About the show: Dave Pickering takes us on a personal journey through gender as he tries to explain masculinity both to you and to himself. Part true storytelling, part TED talk and part apology, the show looks at how the patriarchy hurts men too; how the patriarchy has hurt him, and how he has hurt people because of patriarchy. Drawing on an anonymous survey of 1000 men, feminist theory, internet memes and his life experience, Dave will explain the conclusions he Read More ...
Does patriarchy exist?
How would you define patriarchy?
A systemic institution within society as well as an internalised mode of thought that casts gender roles in a particular way, assigning forms of male and female behaviour and generally privileging men over women.
How has patriarchy hurt you?
False ideas of manliness. Not wanting to express emotion. The pauses or sidelong looks whenever I ‘betray’ masculinity in some way.
How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?
I can’t think of many direct examples: I’m sure I may have done so in ways in which I’m unaware. I’ve misgendered trans people by ‘default’ in conversation, but never deliberately.
How would you define masculinity?
A mode of behaviour and set of internalised beliefs, as well as a presentation and demeanour.
Does misandry exist?
This is complicated. I’m aware of the argument that it cannot existed as it is not supported institutionally in society, but I disagree. Although not systemic there are people who hold such views and I think it wrong to deprive us of that word to correctly express certain perspectives. There seems to be a trend of mocking users of that word in feminist circles, with which I disagree.
Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?
Not hired for a job because I was male. Took a tribunal case. Settled.
What best describes you?
I teach feminism at university, among other things.