About the show: Dave Pickering takes us on a personal journey through gender as he tries to explain masculinity both to you and to himself. Part true storytelling, part TED talk and part apology, the show looks at how the patriarchy hurts men too; how the patriarchy has hurt him, and how he has hurt people because of patriarchy. Drawing on an anonymous survey of 1000 men, feminist theory, internet memes and his life experience, Dave will explain the conclusions he Read More ...
Does patriarchy exist?
How would you define patriarchy?
(I had to google this before answering question 1, to make sure it doesn’t mean the conspiracy version.) Patriarchy is the systematic social dominance of men.
How has patriarchy hurt you?
Since patriarchy is one of the basic boundary conditions of my existence, the question seems as absurd as asking how capitalism has hurt me. It’s such an integral part of the context we live in that without patriarchy I would not exist in a recognisable sense. I feel like you want me to say I can’t cry because of patriarchy or something, but since I never strongly identified with the social role of manliness, I’ve really received only the structural social benefits of being male without suffering any of the downsides (since as a skinny, cheerfully androgynous guy I never felt too strongly that they apply to me).
How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?
When I was young and stupid I applied double standards to promiscuity, which confused and hurt some people.
How would you define masculinity?
The socially constructed idea that men are intrinsically less emotional than women, more practical and physical, and the tacit assumption that this is somehow right.
Does misandry exist?
I’ve put No so as not to be misunderstood. I’m sure some deeply unhappy people have an irrational antipathy to men, but misandry is insignificant.
Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?
Only in a way that has advantaged me
What best describes you?