About the show: Dave Pickering takes us on a personal journey through gender as he tries to explain masculinity both to you and to himself. Part true storytelling, part TED talk and part apology, the show looks at how the patriarchy hurts men too; how the patriarchy has hurt him, and how he has hurt people because of patriarchy. Drawing on an anonymous survey of 1000 men, feminist theory, internet memes and his life experience, Dave will explain the conclusions he Read More ...
Introduction to the survey I don’t think this survey is representative of all men. To a certain extent, it’s a survey of feminist-leaning men. The initial respondents came generally from that POV, and as the survey grew, it was mostly shared by feminists. That said, it does represent many other viewpoints. For example, there were a few hundred in a row where it was mostly being filled in by Men’s Rights Activists. But whatever their starting point, the men filling in the survey had Read More ...
Does patriarchy exist?
Yes
How would you define patriarchy?
Men biasing / preferring to support / select / collaborate with other men, and hence to ignore / overlook / avoid / belittle / patronise women comparatively.
How has patriarchy hurt you?
As a straight guy I don’t know that it has, directly. It’s obviously hurt me as part of wider society collectively, but as for me personally, I suspect it hasn’t.
How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?
I /think/ I haven’t hurt people due patriarchy, unless you count mansplaining and then being told off for it. I’ve tried to always treat male and female colleagues and friends equally, and I can’t point to any failures to do so. But my own perspective may not be accurate. Okay, not quite true, sometimes when lifting/moving steel deck and similar I’ve offered to help women out where I might not have offered to help a man.
How would you define masculinity?
Overt physical strength, stupidity, premium aftershave products.
Does misandry exist?
I don’t know what misandry is!
Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?
No
I’m assuming the question is asking about prejudice *directed at me*, not that I’ve simply borne witness too.
What best describes you?
An ally to feminism