About the show: Dave Pickering takes us on a personal journey through gender as he tries to explain masculinity both to you and to himself. Part true storytelling, part TED talk and part apology, the show looks at how the patriarchy hurts men too; how the patriarchy has hurt him, and how he has hurt people because of patriarchy. Drawing on an anonymous survey of 1000 men, feminist theory, internet memes and his life experience, Dave will explain the conclusions he Read More ...
Introduction to the survey I don’t think this survey is representative of all men. To a certain extent, it’s a survey of feminist-leaning men. The initial respondents came generally from that POV, and as the survey grew, it was mostly shared by feminists. That said, it does represent many other viewpoints. For example, there were a few hundred in a row where it was mostly being filled in by Men’s Rights Activists. But whatever their starting point, the men filling in the survey had Read More ...
Does patriarchy exist?
Yes
How would you define patriarchy?
Any institutionalized system wherein women are treated differently to men, either consciously or not.
How has patriarchy hurt you?
Encouraged me to ‘other’ females and pre-judge them at a young age. As an adult have been forced into aggressive situations as a reaction to other men failing to respect the personal space of friends.
How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?
Still surprised to find girls with ‘geeky’ interests, despite knowing there is little gender disparity in tv / game etc fanbases. Im aware that I sometimes feel a sense of entitlement towards being in a relationship, as if I’m owed non-platonic female interaction by merit of existing.
How would you define masculinity?
Characteristics that might be considered opposite to femininity but not superior or inferior, for example impulsive decision making rather than slower informed planning. Also positive aspects that might also apply to femininity of, such as body confidence, being socially outgoing and respectful / protective of your family or friend group.
Does misandry exist?
Maybe
While not necessarily constructive, a critical or seemingly angry reaction against patriarchal society can be positive in the wider effort for equality.
Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?
Yes
What best describes you?
A feminist