About the show: Dave Pickering takes us on a personal journey through gender as he tries to explain masculinity both to you and to himself. Part true storytelling, part TED talk and part apology, the show looks at how the patriarchy hurts men too; how the patriarchy has hurt him, and how he has hurt people because of patriarchy. Drawing on an anonymous survey of 1000 men, feminist theory, internet memes and his life experience, Dave will explain the conclusions he Read More ...
Does patriarchy exist?
How would you define patriarchy?
Entrenched systems through which firm gender roles are enforced and anyone who isn’t a cis-male is denied access to power.
How has patriarchy hurt you?
I believed for a long time that I had to be someone that I didn’t feel comfortable being (rude, aggressive) because that was the only way I would be respected both by male peers and women I was attracted to.
How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?
For a long time I was douchey/creepy towards women and judged people a lot based on society imposed conventions of attractiveness. I’ve grown up a lot since then but sometimes someone will tell me about something I said or did in freshman year of university and I feel gross. I don’t think I felt good about it at the time either, but I did think that was a way that I had to act in order to be accepted by everyone around me.
How would you define masculinity?
First, clarifications: masculinity is not the opposite of femininity. Masculinity is not restricted to cis-males. With that in mind masculinity is defined by the hard work, loyalty, and protectiveness necessary to support and protect the people that matter to you. It’s also about understanding that having good intentions doesn’t mean you know everything or can do no wrong.
Does misandry exist?
Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?
Only in a way that has advantaged me
I can’t think of a specific moment when I’ve experienced positive gender prejudice but statistically it’s pretty likely.
What best describes you?