About the show: Dave Pickering takes us on a personal journey through gender as he tries to explain masculinity both to you and to himself. Part true storytelling, part TED talk and part apology, the show looks at how the patriarchy hurts men too; how the patriarchy has hurt him, and how he has hurt people because of patriarchy. Drawing on an anonymous survey of 1000 men, feminist theory, internet memes and his life experience, Dave will explain the conclusions he Read More ...
Does patriarchy exist?
How would you define patriarchy?
Harmful expectations for how people should act based on their gender.
How has patriarchy hurt you?
It’s a looming spectre over any thoughts I have regarding relationships and sexuality.
How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?
Many of my attitudes in my younger years were informed by it, and as a result I treated people badly, sometimes without meaning to. Being patronising towards women, assuming a lack of competence, talking over them, etc. I have not completely escaped this way of thinking.
How would you define masculinity?
With great difficulty. Either you’re talking about traditional masculinity (which is full of harmful attitudes or contains traits that shouldn’t be exclusive to the masculine) or what men should aspire to be, which is one size fits all stupidity.
Does misandry exist?
Misandry is largely an internet joke, more rarely something genuinely found in individuals and can occasionally be used to describe prejudices in our society (ie people looking upon men working with children with suspicion).
Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?
In the most minor of ways (a handful of “men are x” jokes over the course of my life). Other than that it’s been the largely unnoticed ride on the priviledge bus.
What best describes you?
None of the above
Someone who believes in feminism, but wouldn’t apply that tag to myself due to fear of repercussions and having residual issues about feminity being bad.