Respondent 222

Does patriarchy exist?

Yes

How would you define patriarchy?

Harmful expectations for how people should act based on their gender.

How has patriarchy hurt you?

It’s a looming spectre over any thoughts I have regarding relationships and sexuality.

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

Many of my attitudes in my younger years were informed by it, and as a result I treated people badly, sometimes without meaning to. Being patronising towards women, assuming a lack of competence, talking over them, etc. I have not completely escaped this way of thinking.

How would you define masculinity?

With great difficulty. Either you’re talking about traditional masculinity (which is full of harmful attitudes or contains traits that shouldn’t be exclusive to the masculine) or what men should aspire to be, which is one size fits all stupidity.

Does misandry exist?

Yes

Misandry is largely an internet joke, more rarely something genuinely found in individuals and can occasionally be used to describe prejudices in our society (ie people looking upon men working with children with suspicion).

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

Yes

In the most minor of ways (a handful of “men are x” jokes over the course of my life). Other than that it’s been the largely unnoticed ride on the priviledge bus.

What best describes you?

None of the above

Someone who believes in feminism, but wouldn’t apply that tag to myself due to fear of repercussions and having residual issues about feminity being bad.