Respondent 216

Does patriarchy exist?

Yes

How would you define patriarchy?

A social order that by default offers power to men before it is offered to women.

How has patriarchy hurt you?

I am subject to a military draft because it is presumed I am somehow fit to be a soldier even though I am a pacifist. It has made my dream career, as a househusband, a low status job. It has made the ideal of masculinity something I do not relate to.

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

Oh, probably too many ways to count. I’ve been rude and dismissive of the opinions of women at times, and I really wish I hadn’t, but things they said seemed ridiculous to me and after some education I realize they were not.

How would you define masculinity?

I don’t know. Seriously, so much of the traditional definition is so toxic that it’s hard to iron out any one definition that is not in some way exclusionary of some men. If you focus on positive ideals, you may be trying to exclude women from those ideals. If you include the negatives, you may be enshrining some toxic stuff as a permanent feature when it isn’t. So, keeping in mind my definition is flawed obviously but I’m just trying to answer the question: A masculine person is a self reliant individual who uses his or her mental or physical strengths for positive and protective purposes.

Does misandry exist?

Yes

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

Yes

What best describes you?

Confused on labels, but erring on the side of treating everybody with respect.