About the show: Dave Pickering takes us on a personal journey through gender as he tries to explain masculinity both to you and to himself. Part true storytelling, part TED talk and part apology, the show looks at how the patriarchy hurts men too; how the patriarchy has hurt him, and how he has hurt people because of patriarchy. Drawing on an anonymous survey of 1000 men, feminist theory, internet memes and his life experience, Dave will explain the conclusions he Read More ...
Does patriarchy exist?
How would you define patriarchy?
A system, designed or not, that privileges male opinions over women’s and, more generally, men over women. It has existed for hundreds of years and takes the form of everything from catcalling in the streets to primogeniture.
How has patriarchy hurt you?
I used to work part-time and work from home. Although I was earning enough (in fact more than my girlfriend) and had plenty of free time, my girlfriend still believed that it was wrong for me to do this and to do more of the housework. But said that, had the situation been reversed, she wouldn’t have minded as much. I think this belief that it’s okay for women to work part time and do housework but not men must have been influenced by patriarchy. I’ll admit this is a small-scale problem compared to what a lot of women go through.
How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?
I used to go along with my father and brother in making fun of my mother. Not explicitly for being a woman, but we definitely bullied her and belittled her opinions for not matching up with ours.
How would you define masculinity?
A system of beliefs, actions etc. that are traditionally defined as of or for men. Although it’s clear that the two main binary genders are different for physiological reasons (ie hormones), I don’t believe that there are any beliefs, actions etc. that are inherently masculine or feminine. I’d say that masculinity is a product of nurture, not nature.
Does misandry exist?
While women have their own privileges, I’d say that the odd door being opened or free drink doesn’t really stack up against the obstacles they face.
Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?
I work in an office with three men. They say some pretty insensitive things about women and I doubt they would if I were a woman. I admit that I let it slide most of the time for an easy life. I am not proud of this.
What best describes you?