About the show: Dave Pickering takes us on a personal journey through gender as he tries to explain masculinity both to you and to himself. Part true storytelling, part TED talk and part apology, the show looks at how the patriarchy hurts men too; how the patriarchy has hurt him, and how he has hurt people because of patriarchy. Drawing on an anonymous survey of 1000 men, feminist theory, internet memes and his life experience, Dave will explain the conclusions he Read More ...
Does patriarchy exist?
How would you define patriarchy?
A social structure where violence is eroticised and flows from the weaponised male class toward the subordinated female class, because of the systematic application of gender – which coordinates the weaponisation of males into ‘Men’ (the masculine, the rapists and exploiters of females, the entitled, the masters), and the subordination of females into ‘Women’ (the feminine, the fuckable and exploited, the submissive, the sex-slaves). Patriarchy is on a material level the process by which ‘cunt’ is extracted from the bodies of the female sex at the rate demanded by males, reducing females to a resource. Gender just is the ideology that lends support to this condition and naturalises the violence, so that sometimes it is not even perceived as violence.
How has patriarchy hurt you?
It has hurt my female friends and loved ones; raped them, beaten them, turned them out and exploited them. It has conditioned them into feeling awful and self-loathing, self-denying, self-debasing. It has forced dissociation and eroticised torture and abuse that they faced, propagandised the oppression of my friends and all females. It has tried to make me part of it through systematic conditioning, and in too many ways it has already succeeded and caused irreparable damage.
How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?
When younger, before becoming conscious of how abhorrent the sex industry is, I suggested to one of my first girlfriends that we watch some porn. Pornography is propaganda for the trade in people, and I regret this massively. I had also adopted a perspective on romance that was distorted by control issues.
How would you define masculinity?
A culturally conditioned entitlement to access and control the bodies, lives and spaces of females, performed by males to intimidate females but also to signal to other males that they are not a target for sexualised violence, that they are a fucker not a fucked. A twisted combination of weaponised aggression and expression of one’s status in a 10,000 year old rape culture.
Does misandry exist?
Not as a global, systematic method of control through violence and hatred. Some people hate males because of their typical conditioning – that’s fair. Some have a biology-based hatred, that’s less fair.
Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?
Only in a way that has advantaged me
What best describes you?
An ally to feminism