Respondent 167

Does patriarchy exist?

Yes

How would you define patriarchy?

The prevailing societal structure that places higher value on the traditionally masculine.

How has patriarchy hurt you?

For a long time I tried–and failed–to be the things that the patriarchy wanted me to be as a boy or man, which has led to a conditioning of being not as in touch with my emotions as I ought to be, and ultimately in my being somewhat ashamed and uncomfortable as myself, a not-very-masculine man.

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

Hoo boy, I’m not sure I could point to any specific instances or even overall trends, but sometimes I do find myself tapping into those annoyingly ingrained patriarchal attitudes, almost instinctually.

How would you define masculinity?

Well, I certainly will say that I’ve changed my personal definition of masculinity a lot from the strong-silent-type, can’t-be-hurt hegemonic masculine ideal that tends to be the dominant societal definition.

Does misandry exist?

Maybe

In a purely technical sense, sure. But most often when someone identifies something as such, it’s not misandry. It’s not nearly as common as some people would have you believe, and it’s certainly not as big a problem as misogyny.

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

Only in a way that has advantaged me

What best describes you?

A feminist