About the show: Dave Pickering takes us on a personal journey through gender as he tries to explain masculinity both to you and to himself. Part true storytelling, part TED talk and part apology, the show looks at how the patriarchy hurts men too; how the patriarchy has hurt him, and how he has hurt people because of patriarchy. Drawing on an anonymous survey of 1000 men, feminist theory, internet memes and his life experience, Dave will explain the conclusions he Read More ...
Does patriarchy exist?
How would you define patriarchy?
A male-orientated, or male-dominated society, in which males and their opinions are given priorities in key decisions in society.
How has patriarchy hurt you?
As a man, my pain is rarely felt first-hand at our patriarchal society; it often comes through seeing the struggles that women go through to curb this attitude that men have. As a voter who is sitting on the fence before the forthcoming election, patriachy has never felt so rife in the media and in dinner conversation. Nicola Sturgeon (sp?), the current incumbent for the leader of the SNP, had, in my humble opinion, given the English public a much wider understanding of what her party represented, with some key points about politics. Shamefully, tabloids seemed to think that her makeup and hair was of a far greater importance than her views. This example just sets a staggering precursor for others to mock appearance over views. It was in fact a friend of mine that shared this link, a female friend, left so exasperated over how women and their views have far too often been treated like second class citizens.
How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?
I would, probably na�vely, think that I have never gone out of my way to hurt women with any concept of patriachy. But, as like most men, I have sat over a beer with male friends and bonded over which celebrity/work colleague we find most attractive. Of course, none of these conversations tend to involve the cordial idea of taking them out yachting and for a summer’s picnic- the language is often vulgar, and following a few beers, loud. If any woman overheard these conversations, which I’m sure many have in pubs, then they will have had to listen to our belief that we can make the decision over how women can be relegated to the level of an object, and that we can make decisions over what we do with said object. As I’m writing, shame comes over me with this.
How would you define masculinity?
A pattern of behaviours often associated with men- often used in conjuncture with stereotypes with how men are supposed to act (the “alpha male”, as it were).
Does misandry exist?
Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?
What best describes you?