About the show: Dave Pickering takes us on a personal journey through gender as he tries to explain masculinity both to you and to himself. Part true storytelling, part TED talk and part apology, the show looks at how the patriarchy hurts men too; how the patriarchy has hurt him, and how he has hurt people because of patriarchy. Drawing on an anonymous survey of 1000 men, feminist theory, internet memes and his life experience, Dave will explain the conclusions he Read More ...
Does patriarchy exist?
How would you define patriarchy?
Systematic gender discrimination based on perceptions of gender/gender roles that overall hurts women more than men but causes wide harm to society as a whole, including men
How has patriarchy hurt you?
Ideas of “masculine” men create expectations of behaviour and stereotypes which have hurt in past e.g with group dynamics, relationships and personal image
How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?
Unsure, ingeneral though I think harm caused is structural and its effects on individuals thought processes are subconscious and so this makes it hard to notice. Would distinguish from conscious deliberate discrimination which I hope I have not practiced. If patriarchy exists it is in the culture we “live” in and so we will not notice its influence on us in a similar way to how fish probably are not best to ask about influence of water – they have no experience anywhere else.
How would you define masculinity?
Embodiment of a particular idea of maleness dominant in the cultural narrative. Not necessarily a negative idea, but with some potentially negative aspects, especially for those who do not fit certain molds.
Does misandry exist?
Yes in theory, but context word is used is usually dumb internet arguments between idiots so maybe a better word needed.
Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?
What best describes you?
None of the above
All these labels imply motte-and-Bailey commitments (look up this term it is extremely useful in understanding debates on feminism)