About the show: Dave Pickering takes us on a personal journey through gender as he tries to explain masculinity both to you and to himself. Part true storytelling, part TED talk and part apology, the show looks at how the patriarchy hurts men too; how the patriarchy has hurt him, and how he has hurt people because of patriarchy. Drawing on an anonymous survey of 1000 men, feminist theory, internet memes and his life experience, Dave will explain the conclusions he Read More ...
Does patriarchy exist?
How would you define patriarchy?
I find the implications of these questions sexist and misleading. It presupposes that A: that we live in society most accurately described as patriarchal and B: that men might take issue with this statement and claim that the scales have been pulled straight. Neither of these things is very helpful. I feel the truth is that we live in society where evolving gender roles (a good thing I might add) are at odds with the past there are and there are winners and losers amongst all genders. The problem is that because critical thinking, understandably so, has started out concerned with the female gender we are now left with language deeply hostile to other genders, heterosexual men in particular, transforming them in either aggressors or apologists.
How has patriarchy hurt you?
Gender roles have hurt me the negative space in which men are supposed to live according to modern gender studies lacks positive definition from men themselves. I have been told to be a man by women especially, I have never told anyone they should embody their gender stereotype. We need to fall out of love with the money making suit and the motor bike bad boy and that doesn’t mean just men.
How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?
Like racism employing gender stereotypes hurts everyone and I cannot deny that I have never made a hurtful choice informed by bias either in ignorance or in malice. I am working on it always, trying to become a better person as I hope we all are.
How would you define masculinity?
I hope we can move beyond needing to define masculinity and femininity as these historic terms are laced with poison and hold us back, instead we should concentrate on what we want out of gender at large and how much if at all we want to define it.
Does misandry exist?
Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?
What best describes you?
None of the above