About the show: Dave Pickering takes us on a personal journey through gender as he tries to explain masculinity both to you and to himself. Part true storytelling, part TED talk and part apology, the show looks at how the patriarchy hurts men too; how the patriarchy has hurt him, and how he has hurt people because of patriarchy. Drawing on an anonymous survey of 1000 men, feminist theory, internet memes and his life experience, Dave will explain the conclusions he Read More ...
Does patriarchy exist?
How would you define patriarchy?
A propensity in society for men to be found at the head of organisations, both business and social, with no greater skills than female peers.
How has patriarchy hurt you?
Expectations of masculine behaviour, both expectations of benign traits which are simply not my own (e.g. sporting prowess, financial success etc.) and expectations of negative traits which effect how others see and treat me (e.g. the expectation I might be violent). Attempts to address the problems of gender inequality can make me, as a man, uncomfortable and conflicted about certain life decisions (e.g. the conversation between my wife and I about family names, which would have, in an ideal world, not have carried so much cultural weight).
How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?
I can’t think of a way that I’ve hurt people in a way influenced by patriarchy.
How would you define masculinity?
I wouldn’t define masculinity. I believe that people should define their own gender identities and it’s up to other people to respect and celebrate that. The main caveat to this is that no gender identity can be defined by hurting people; violence is not an identity.
Does misandry exist?
Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?
What best describes you?