Respondent 107

Does patriarchy exist?

Yes

How would you define patriarchy?

A propensity in society for men to be found at the head of organisations, both business and social, with no greater skills than female peers.

How has patriarchy hurt you?

Expectations of masculine behaviour, both expectations of benign traits which are simply not my own (e.g. sporting prowess, financial success etc.) and expectations of negative traits which effect how others see and treat me (e.g. the expectation I might be violent). Attempts to address the problems of gender inequality can make me, as a man, uncomfortable and conflicted about certain life decisions (e.g. the conversation between my wife and I about family names, which would have, in an ideal world, not have carried so much cultural weight).

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

I can’t think of a way that I’ve hurt people in a way influenced by patriarchy.

How would you define masculinity?

I wouldn’t define masculinity. I believe that people should define their own gender identities and it’s up to other people to respect and celebrate that. The main caveat to this is that no gender identity can be defined by hurting people; violence is not an identity.

Does misandry exist?

Yes

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

Yes

What best describes you?

A feminist