About the show: Dave Pickering takes us on a personal journey through gender as he tries to explain masculinity both to you and to himself. Part true storytelling, part TED talk and part apology, the show looks at how the patriarchy hurts men too; how the patriarchy has hurt him, and how he has hurt people because of patriarchy. Drawing on an anonymous survey of 1000 men, feminist theory, internet memes and his life experience, Dave will explain the conclusions he Read More ...
Does patriarchy exist?
How would you define patriarchy?
A lack of gender equality in society due to a misled belief that men should be in charge or are in some way better than women.
How has patriarchy hurt you?
It hasn’t really. I’m a white, middle class male. If I was to be super picky, I have missed opportunities because of forced gender equality where they needed a female candidate. I’m not at all bothered by that but it wouldn’t need be the case if there was already gender equality everywhere. So I could, I suppose very pettily say it’s affected me that way.
How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?
I’ve been brought up by parents who’ve taught me that patriarchy is wrong so hopefully I haven’t. Though I wasn’t particularly nice to my first girlfriend but I partly blame that on weird teenage hormones.
How would you define masculinity?
Being male. Anything else that people add on top of that is sheer insecurity with themselves.
Does misandry exist?
Pretty sure it does just because there is always someone out there who hates someone else for gender, ethnicity, the way their face looks, the shoes they are wearing. It’s human. Just again, I don’t think it’s a huge problem and if it is, I’m sure patriarchy is to blame in the first place.
Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?
Just in the way I’ve mentioned above, but it’s not particularly damaging or anything to be bothered about.
What best describes you?
I’d also happily say feminist if I could pick two!