About the show: Dave Pickering takes us on a personal journey through gender as he tries to explain masculinity both to you and to himself. Part true storytelling, part TED talk and part apology, the show looks at how the patriarchy hurts men too; how the patriarchy has hurt him, and how he has hurt people because of patriarchy. Drawing on an anonymous survey of 1000 men, feminist theory, internet memes and his life experience, Dave will explain the conclusions he Read More ...
Unbound are publishing a book that will adapt the show and include the survey which you can preorder/pledge to support right now: https://unbound.com/books/mansplaining-masculinity/
Dave Pickering tries to explain masculinity, both to you and to himself
In 2015, I made a show about being a man called What About the Men? Mansplaining Masculinity. As research for the show, I surveyed 1000 anonymous men. In 2016, I wrote and performed an extension of the show called Liberating Men for BBC Radio 4’s Four Thought. That episode was the Radio Times Pick of the Day.
I want to develop and expand this work into a book. Part one will be an extended version of the show and will be addressed to men; part two will be addressed to everyone and will cover what I’ve learned through the journey of performing the show; and part three will be the full survey of 1000 men. The survey says more about where masculinity is right now than anything I’ve ever come up with. It’s full of contradictions, emotions and prejudices. Just like men.
The book won’t be a book about how men are the problem. It will be a book about trying to find ways of changing the systems that surround and contain us. I won’t be presenting myself as objective or as any kind of authority. I don’t have any answers. But I do have some suggestions for what I think can be done.
I don’t want to be given cookies for any of this. When people come to my show I give them cookies. But I do think this is an important time for men to be grappling with what it means to be a man, how we are trained to be men, and what alternative approaches we can take when navigating the world.
This book will help more men to ask questions; to reassess and decode ourselves; to strive for liberation; to feel and express emotions freely and respectfully; to be safe from violence; to help other people to be safe from violence; and to support and love consensually and without shame. Thousands of years of social conditioning is a thing we all share. We’ve all been lied to and manipulated; this manipulation hurts some of us more than others. It’s built on lies, and it hurts everyone.
That’s what this book will be about.
Content note: This book will talk about violence, abuse, sexual assault, rape, systematic bullying, mental health issues and suicide.