Respondent 847

Does patriarchy exist?

Yes

How would you define patriarchy?

A huge pile of bullshit that keeps power in the old boys club.

How has patriarchy hurt you?

I get the piss taken out of me for promoting equality. If I were a paranoid man, I’d say that I was spoken poorly of behind closed doors and that it subsequently hurt my chances of success, but fuckit, that’s a view held by paranoid insecure assholes. If I didn’t get the promotion, it’s because someone else was better, not because I spoke out against objectification. To chest-thump otherwise is to embody the negative side of masculinity.

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

Yeah, pretty much constantly, no matter how hard I try to avoid it I’ll still accidentally say half the words in a meeting with three other women, and talk about golf and beer with my interview panel.

How would you define masculinity?

A sense of identity in a group of traits traditionally associated with the male gender. As with any group identity, it has the potential to become exclusionary or feel threatened by other group identities. I believe masculinity is redeemable but this is outwith the ability of our current society as a whole, and most men generally.

Does misandry exist?

No

Isolated occurrences in specific situations, but set against a backdrop of historical imbalance. Is “whitey” racially oppressed in the hood? Technically yes, but taken in a wider historical context, it’s more complex. Anyway, I believe true equality will happen, not when no men or women are ever advantaged or disadvantaged over each other, but when the various isolated bullshit inequalities are shared 50:50 between men and women. I’d like to see half of all industries have a “higher paid females” problem, not 1 in 100 as we have now.

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

Only in a way that has advantaged me

Oh shit yes, being a straight white man is like playing life on easy mode. The only problem is the company is pretty shameful. There are a bunch of immature kids around you yelling “it’s easy, stop being a pussy” at all the black gay women playing the game of life on “brutal”, a choice they didn’t make.

What best describes you?

A feminist

Feminist isn’t really my word and I don’t deserve to have my voice heard by other feminists, and I have nothing useful to say to feminist women or allies. However, the label is useful to get less enlightened men to fucking think for a second.

Respondent 846

Does patriarchy exist?

No

How would you define patriarchy?

Idk wat it iz

How has patriarchy hurt you?

Yes it heurt my peenis

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

Yez

How would you define masculinity?

Big strong buff PEENIS

Does misandry exist?

No

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

Yes

What best describes you?

An ally to feminism

Respondent 838

Does patriarchy exist?

No

How would you define patriarchy?

A made up thing, like God or Santa

How has patriarchy hurt you?

It hasn’t. It doesn’t exist.

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

It isn’t real

How would you define masculinity?

having a penis and testicles

Does misandry exist?

No

I suppose in theory, but not in practise. Men are not discriminated against!

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

No

What best describes you?

An egalitarian

Respondent 822

Does patriarchy exist?

Yes

How would you define patriarchy?

The condition of a society whose powerful positions are mostly occupied by cishetero white men and the conscious or unconscious biases that arise from that network’s influence.

How has patriarchy hurt you?

Does it matter? I’m a cishetero white guy. It’s helped me far more than it’s hurt me. Talking about how patriarchy may or may not have hurt me takes time and focus away from exposing how it’s hurt everyone else. It can’t be about me. That’s the whole point.

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

I exist. That’s hurtful enough. I mean, I could point out the occasional thoughtless/ignorant microagression but really the numbers start piling up in how much I have and use versus how much other people don’t have or use, despite than I’m nowhere near “the 0.1%” or even the “1%.”

How would you define masculinity?

At the risk of being circular, masculinity is whatever attracts those who are attracted to men. Generally I suppose you could say this involves assertiveness and a certain type of physique but if someone who is attracted to masculinity is attracted to you, you’re doing something correctly.

Does misandry exist?

No

Clarification: One can be a misandrist. There are plenty of those – people who are prejudiced against men. Misandry as a social force (like misogyny) does not.

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

Only in a way that has advantaged me

What best describes you?

None of the above

I try to be intersectional. Until I develop or find some kind of metric with which to assess my success at doing so, I’m uncomfortable claiming to be much of anything.

Respondent 818

Does patriarchy exist?

Yes

How would you define patriarchy?

Evil m*n who want to gas six million strong independent womyn.

How has patriarchy hurt you?

It *LITERALLY* rapes me everyday and I find that to be quite problematic.

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

Wow, just WOW. Womyn can’t hurt anyone you fucking misogynist.

How would you define masculinity?

Rape and oppression of minorities and womyn.

Does misandry exist?

No

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

Yes

What best describes you?

A feminist

Respondent 817

Does patriarchy exist?

Yes

How would you define patriarchy?

A society dominated by male rule

How has patriarchy hurt you?

Society gives us a set of parameters that you must exist in to be considered “masculine” Should a person like something or behaving in a way that is outside these parameters they are looked down on.

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

In recent years I do not believe I have, partially due to the fact I don’t have the influence to harm others and partially because of a focused effort to not let my privilege from causing harm. I don’t, however, document my each and every action so it’s by no means certain that I have avoided hurting others due to privilege.

How would you define masculinity?

If you define your gender as male, you are therefore masculine.

Does misandry exist?

No

Others starting to receive the same rights you have had since the dawn of humanity does not mean you are being oppressed.

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

Only in a way that has advantaged me

What best describes you?

A feminist

Respondent 815

Does patriarchy exist?

Yes

How would you define patriarchy?

A system in which masculinity is held as ideal, to the detriment of those who exist outside of the social construction of such

How has patriarchy hurt you?

Pressure to conform to masculinity, ingrained homophobia, fear of the feminine

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

I hope not

How would you define masculinity?

Tough, bold, dominant, confident, big dick

Does misandry exist?

No

Or at least, not in the same pervasive way that misogyny does

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

Yes

Yes, but only because I showed “womanly’ traits

What best describes you?

A feminist

Respondent 812

Does patriarchy exist?

Yes

How would you define patriarchy?

The patriarchy is the way our society has been set up, both explicitly and subtly, to favor men over women.

How has patriarchy hurt you?

Growing up, I had a lot of trouble fitting into masculine gender roles. I felt like there was something wrong with me because of this.

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

Our culture makes it really easy to dismiss women’s experiences of harassment and abuse. I’ve only recently been really listening to women about what they’ve experienced.

How would you define masculinity?

Masculinity is so defined in our culture by not being other things–not being a woman, not being gay, not being a child–I have difficulty coming up with an actual definition for it. I suppose its a collection of behaviors that we associate with superheroes: muscles, direct action, declarative statements. All of which are not limited to men.

Does misandry exist?

No

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

Only in a way that has advantaged me

What best describes you?

A feminist

Respondent 802

Does patriarchy exist?

Yes

How would you define patriarchy?

A dynamic of social and economic injustice that places and maintains control and privilege in the hands of heteronormative cis men (which I am).

How has patriarchy hurt you?

By making it excessively difficult for a lot of women I care about. And by maintaining a world in which weakness in men is unacceptable.

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

I’m pretty sure I’ve made all the mistakes: take women less seriously, mansplain, been creepy and abusive.

How would you define masculinity?

Tough one. I guess a dynamic of predispositions –, behavioural, sexuality, or otherwise — associated with men, as measurables they manifest as attitudes. Usually sweeping, coarse and prescriptive. Like, men don’t cry; men buy dinner; men do fly-fishing; men get what they want — sexually; men can carry heavy stuff; women pack the bags for men in kindergartens; men don’t make dinner, but men do BBQ.

Does misandry exist?

No

You meet isolated cases of people who assume you’re a rapist because you own math books and are mean about it; still that is not indicative of structural oppression of men as much as a misguided, and somewhat understandable albeit douchy and mean, reaction to patriarchy.

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

Yes

Directed towards me, I’m assumed to be intelligent, capable, brave, with no weakness. For some, whenever this shows itself to be untrue I’m often as good as worthless. For the great majority of times, though, I benefit immensely from it.

What best describes you?

A feminist

Respondent 800

Does patriarchy exist?

Yes

How would you define patriarchy?

Expectation of men being superior to women and therefore being in charge.

How has patriarchy hurt you?

By limiting the opportunities of women who matter in my life. By belittling me for not being interested in learning things stereotypically associated with masculinity.

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

Yes. At work by judging people bkt for ability alone.

How would you define masculinity?

Respondent skipped question

Does misandry exist?

No

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

Yes

What best describes you?

An ally to feminism