Respondent 1000

Does patriarchy exist?

Yes

How would you define patriarchy?

A dominant social system that privileges straight cus white men over all other people.

How has patriarchy hurt you?

Social pressure to confirm to what society considers normal for men.

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

Learned and often unthinking prejudice against and stereotyped expectations of others.

How would you define masculinity?

Anything society deems inherent to men but not to women or other groups.

Does misandry exist?

No

In concept being anti-male exists but prejudice without power is almost meaningless.

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

Yes

What best describes you?

An ally to feminism

Respondent 994

Does patriarchy exist?

Yes

How would you define patriarchy?

The systematic, historically ingrained, and societally internalised privileging of men over women.

How has patriarchy hurt you?

Pressure to look/act/behave a certain way (especially towards women) to “be a man”. Insecurity. Limited exposure to the diversity of women in industry and entertainment. Comments like “if you think this web page works, get your mum or your wife to try using it [and watch how they screw up]”.

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

Sexist jokes, blinkered view of the “role” of women in society, objectification of women.

How would you define masculinity?

The heteronormative, ableist construction of desirable male attributes and behaviours.

Does misandry exist?

No

What MRAs describe as “misandry” is basically just women wanting human dignity.

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

Only in a way that has advantaged me

What best describes you?

A feminist

Social Justice Cleric

Respondent 989

Does patriarchy exist?

Yes

How would you define patriarchy?

Structures set up within society that oppress women and maintain inequality between the sexes

How has patriarchy hurt you?

toxic masculinity, saying that men can’t be raped

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

objectified women, policed their bodies

How would you define masculinity?

a social construct of behaviours including aggressive behaviours that are considered “manly”

Does misandry exist?

No

The oppressor can’t be oppressed

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

Only in a way that has advantaged me

What best describes you?

A feminist

Respondent 977

Does patriarchy exist?

Yes

How would you define patriarchy?

Men’s rule over women.

How has patriarchy hurt you?

Made me rule over women when I’d no desire to rule at all.

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

Acted, or hoped to act, as if they were means to an end, or hoped to serve as means to an end.

How would you define masculinity?

Man-ness, as enacted, expected, expressed or imposed.

Does misandry exist?

No

Ha ha ha ha. Like “reverse racism” or “liberal democracy”.

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

Only in a way that has advantaged me

What best describes you?

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Respondent 978

Does patriarchy exist?

Yes

How would you define patriarchy?

it is a system of power structures, social norms and assumptions put in place to preserve the status quo of those in power, mostly wealthy white men.

How has patriarchy hurt you?

Not being born a wealthy white man, I’m at a disadvantage in almost all aspects of life, education (didn’t manage to get an academic degree), finances (not making a profit off my little savings). On a more personal emotional level, having internalized masculinity my ability to deal with emotions and express them has been inhibited to the point that I require professional help to unlearn some of the habits and behaviors ascribed to be by masculinity.

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

Since it’s difficult for me to relate and empathize with people of different social class, color, gender or ethnicity other than my own, or white, I’ve ended up ignoring the needs, cries for help or basic human decency of such people. For example ignoring homeless people on the street asking for some help.

How would you define masculinity?

A set of very arbitrary rules governing the behavior and to a great extent the inner world of men, dictating certain ways a man must look, behave and think in order to be “worthy” of being regarded as a man.

Does misandry exist?

No

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

Yes

mostly in ways that have advantaged me, but also in a very small number of cases in ways that have disadvantaged me.

What best describes you?

A feminist

Respondent 974

Does patriarchy exist?

Yes

How would you define patriarchy?

Patriarchy is an interpersonal political system, an earmarked provision of the social contract. It creates an environment of reward and punishment, servitude and fear and self-hatred, centered around an arbitrary idea of gender. Patriarchy makes it costly or deadly not to falsify yourself in its name.

How has patriarchy hurt you?

Patriarchy means that when I’m single I don’t get to touch anyone except for a handshake. Patriarchy told me that by feeling, I had failed, and that I had to stop crying, which of course I could never, because having begun to cry, I had already failed. Patriarchy caused me to ignore even the possibility that I was not really a boy for thirty years. Patriarchy made me accept for my whole life that I was the weird one. Patriarchy rewarded everyone who enforced all of this, parents, lovers, employers, civil servants, and strangers who shout “faggot” out of car windows.

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

Uncountable ways. Every time I did anything in order to be cool, I was selling out myself and all of us to patriarchy. I pandered to it, asked for its favor, and offered individuals as sacrifice. I was the instrument of its punishments.

How would you define masculinity?

Masculinity is a demon that crippled me until I decided it was wrong and stopped feeding it.

Does misandry exist?

No

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

Yes

What best describes you?

A feminist

Respondent 967

Does patriarchy exist?

Yes

How would you define patriarchy?

Enforcement of punitive hierarchies of power by an established oppressive “elite”.

How has patriarchy hurt you?

Enforcement of gender boundaries, being told that a behaviour is “girly” as if that were an insult. Being in a culture that hates women do much that being gay (and therefore not, somehow, male enough??) I shouldn’t exist. Years of depression and suicide attempts could have been avoided if maybe we were more OK as a society with women.

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

I daresay I have. I went to an all his grammar school, so had opportunities debuted to others. As a task white man, my vice is listened to add authoritative when I deserve no such position. This must harm others and myself every time I accept and act upon that privilege.

How would you define masculinity?

An unhelpful code of behaviour that seems at best archaic, but at worst, dangerous, destructive and utterly pointless.

Does misandry exist?

No

very rarely, if ever. mostly I see that used whenever someone thinks a woman or women should have even close to a fair deal. I daresay there’s some very rare senses where it might apply (support for male victims of rape, maybe?) but in general it seems to just be a term used to dismiss the voices of women.

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

Only in a way that has advantaged me

What best describes you?

An ally to feminism

I’d hope to be described as feminist, but I can’t be the one to do that as it’s another way to take agency from women.

Respondent 954

Does patriarchy exist?

Yes

How would you define patriarchy?

A system which aggressively polices gender roles, in which men are expected to control and dominate, and women to care and nurture.

How has patriarchy hurt you?

It limits my self-expression.

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

I find myself talking over women. And I find myself judging women on what they’re wearing in a way that I wouldn’t do if they were male. And I sometimes mis-gender trans people.

How would you define masculinity?

The qualities associated with being a man.

Does misandry exist?

No

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

Only in a way that has advantaged me

What best describes you?

A feminist

Respondent 942

Does patriarchy exist?

Yes

How would you define patriarchy?

Men ruling the world on the institutiobalized pedestal of the family

How has patriarchy hurt you?

My family has a dominant matriarch

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

I thinks this idea allows men to set a group of values and to pass them on in the workplace and in the family gross

How would you define masculinity?

abscribing to what is perceived as such

Does misandry exist?

No

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

Yes

What best describes you?

None of the above

A babyboy with an apetite for the transgression of the values behing masculinity and inevitably patriarchy!

Respondent 940

Does patriarchy exist?

Yes

How would you define patriarchy?

The oppression of men and women based on the assumed inferiority of all things perceived as ‘feminine’

How has patriarchy hurt you?

I’m a transgender man, and I’m constantly being told I’m not a ‘real man’ because I embrace the fact I’m not cis, I eschew toxic masculinity, and I fight for the rights of women.

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

I’m not sure that I have; living as a woman for 20 years, I don’t believe I oppressed or hurt anyone because of the power of the patriarchy.

How would you define masculinity?

Masculinity is what any given man makes of it.

Does misandry exist?

No

It does not; being fed up with harassment and abuse is not the same as misogyny.

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

Yes

What best describes you?

A feminist