Respondent 996

Does patriarchy exist?

Yes

How would you define patriarchy?

Old fashioned customs

How has patriarchy hurt you?

I’m not aware of it hurting me.

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

Don’t think so.

How would you define masculinity?

Standing up for people and doing the right thing.

Does misandry exist?

Respondent skipped question

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

No

What best describes you?

An ally to feminism

Respondent 990

Does patriarchy exist?

Yes

How would you define patriarchy?

A culture of disrespect and violence towards women. I would distinguish it from individual sexist or misogynist perspectives in that it’s about people holding power and putting others at a disadvantage rather than hate or anger. So, the way I understand it, someone might be non-misogynist but still benefit from the advantages of privilege and inequality; or have negative views about women but less access to structural advantage.

How has patriarchy hurt you?

creating expectations about my behaviour that don’t really chime with my self-image. It’s hard to say how much of this is patriarchy and how much is other aspects of how society is ordered: eg capitalism or stories presented by the media

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

I suppose passively, by being born into privilege; I’m sure I’ve had sexist views in the past which have changed over time

How would you define masculinity?

there are mainstream models of masculinity revolving around power, imperviousness, and lack of emotional reflection that I would reject; I don’t think of myself in terms of my masculinity, but if I did, the sort of things I would consider would be courage, creativity, compassion, resilience and generosity. I’m not sure how those are male traits, but there are few traits I would view as inspirational in men and not in women.

Does misandry exist?

Yes

I’m sure there are some women who, either due to negative experiences with men or otherwise, feel anger or hatred towards men. I think this is a different phenomenon from patriarchy for all sorts of reasons, not least of all scale.

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

No

I am not aware of direct prejudice either way, but if I had benefitted positively I might not have been aware

What best describes you?

None of the above

Would rather not say

Respondent 985

Does patriarchy exist?

Yes

How would you define patriarchy?

The way society has been structured around the nuclear family with property being passed down through the male line through legitimate sons – related to but distinct from male gender roles.

How has patriarchy hurt you?

It hasn’t.

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

No.

How would you define masculinity?

I don’t know but society defines it as strength, dominance in a hierarchy and the approval of women. Women police masculinity as much as men.

Does misandry exist?

Yes

But a relatively rare phenomenon amongst certain subcultures.

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

No

What best describes you?

None of the above

Respondent 980

Does patriarchy exist?

No

How would you define patriarchy?

Some archaic biblical notion of fathers ruling families. Load of nonsense.

How has patriarchy hurt you?

Not at all. I have been blissfully unaware of its existence.

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

Not at all, (hopefully) to my knowledge.

How would you define masculinity?

The set of attributes, attitudes, behaviours and tendencies most typically exhibited by males of the species.

Does misandry exist?

Yes

“Wimmin”…who hate men in the same way that some men undoubtedly do hate women. In my view, hating anyone is a pointless waste of time and we should all just get on with it and stop whining.

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

No

What best describes you?

None of the above

Someone who makes their own mind up and resists being labelled.

Respondent 972

Does patriarchy exist?

Yes

How would you define patriarchy?

It’s when everymeaningful decision is taken by and for men.

How has patriarchy hurt you?

By making me question my virility instead of the toxicity of my relationship. “If it’s not satisfactory it must be because I’m not man enough”.

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

I considered that women needed my help, by default.

How would you define masculinity?

It’s being a man while still being human. Every patriarchal rule deshumanize men.

Does misandry exist?

Yes

But only in very, very rare microcosms.

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

No

What best describes you?

None of the above

a human.

Respondent 968

Does patriarchy exist?

Yes

How would you define patriarchy?

Male dominance

How has patriarchy hurt you?

Other males believing they have power over female friends and family

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

sexist remarks or jokes

How would you define masculinity?

providing protection and strength for anyone who needs it. There is the old world view of masculinity being strong men and dominant but that is changing, more men are finding the importance of their femininity at the same time as being masculine.

Does misandry exist?

Maybe

Only in certain extreme circumstances

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

No

What best describes you?

Nice guy

Respondent 969

Does patriarchy exist?

Yes

How would you define patriarchy?

A society organized to the advantage of a privileged few on the basis particularly of gender but also of race and sexuality.

How has patriarchy hurt you?

It probably hasn’t particularly, other than in a neurotic sense – ie, I know that as a man (and a straight, white man at that) the deck is stacked hugely in my favour. It makes any failure very depressing because the world is arranged to be advantageous to my kind, meaning that any failure in anything means that I am totally useless. Losing a card game when you know the deck is stacked in your favour can be depressing. (N.B. while this is a bit like whining about a minor cut when people around me are dying, I do think the mental health implications of what I have said are genuine and not trivial) I also think that as a younger man I will have been affected by trying to live up to a ridiculous ideal or role that my gender says I’m supposed to play. It takes a while to free oneself from those expectations, if one ever truly can.

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

I think I have probably not been sensitive enough to the ways in which is grinds other people down. Sometimes those of us privileged by it don’t necessarily see the rest. Maybe even by having a job or achieving anything I am only able to do that because I am privileged by my gender and race. By implication then any success always necessarily comes at the expense of someone else without those advantages. The system is such that my existence hurts people.

How would you define masculinity?

Aspects of ones character, attitude or emotional makeup pertaining to being male. It can therefore be anything. Any attempt to call a particular character trait, attitude or emotion as definitive of masculinity is in my view wrong (but is likely a symptom of patriarchy)

Does misandry exist?

Maybe

To some degree it does, but essentially it’s just another side of misogyny and a symptom of patriarchy. If it does exist it’s really just misogyny. A hatred of men implies a hatred of, or at least a disrepect of women. The issue is much more complicated than simple misandry though. It only exists insofar as patriarchy breeds resentment, but caving to that resentment is essentially misogyny, because you can’t hate one gender without the implicit hatred of one’s own. I definitely haven’t expressed this properly.

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

No

Not that I know of at least. I do remember an English lesson in school where the teacher asked all the boys in the class to say the word ‘love’. The teacher said the experiment proved that boys can’t really say love and have trouble with concept. As an experiment, all I can say of it is that I don’t think it would pass peer review.

What best describes you?

A feminist

Though I find all such labels and terms problematic in some ways. Whether I have a right to call myself a feminist isn’t my decision. I believe that all genders should have exactly the same rights, responsibilities and opportunities, and that this is currently not the case in our society. What term you want to apply to that does not really concern me. I think I’m a feminist but if anyone wants to tell me I’m not then that’s fine.

Respondent 952

Does patriarchy exist?

Yes

How would you define patriarchy?

A dated system of hierarchy employed mainly by religions back in the day as a way of social conditioning and control.

How has patriarchy hurt you?

Personally it hasn’t “hurt” me, however it has been consistantly damaging to the progressing into an equal society and world. It hurts because aslong as there are people who has this belief, Liberty for all will never prevail, and true equality will be nothing but a faded illusion.

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

I’d like to think I haven’t. Perhaps other than the social conditioning we are mostly all inducted into. Little boys play with guns and soldiers. Little girls play with prams and dolls. And so begins the subconcious conditions and training of the roles society and the patriarchal veiws many aren’t even aware they have.

How would you define masculinity?

I would define masculinity as being brave enough to stand up for what you believe it even if others do not. Standing by your principals. Being passionate and rational. Being comfortable with who you are. Being strong when others need you. Being someone that people can trust. Someone that people can admire for the choices they have and the views they hold.

Does misandry exist?

Yes

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

No

What best describes you?

None of the above

Human Being. Same as everyone else.

Respondent 939

Does patriarchy exist?

Yes

How would you define patriarchy?

Men over weak women

How has patriarchy hurt you?

It hasn’t

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

I haven’t. Women belong in the kitchen

How would you define masculinity?

Being fucking awesome

Does misandry exist?

WOMEN ARE USELESS ASIDE FROM COOKING, TITS AND THEIR TASTY VAGINAS

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

No

What best describes you?

None of the above

FUCKING AWESOME

Respondent 929

Does patriarchy exist?

Yes

How would you define patriarchy?

A systemic bias towards men.

How has patriarchy hurt you?

I don’t think it has hurt me specifically as much as damaged the society I’m a part of. It’s certainly hurt people I care about.

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

I think, like most men, I’ve been guilty of not questioning things. I guess I’ve passively been a part of it, and that’s not enormously better than actively being a part of it.

How would you define masculinity?

I’m not sure. The traditional idea of it is a bit contradictory – stoic yet aggressive.

Does misandry exist?

No

Perhaps it does on an individual basis, not a societal one though.

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

No

What best describes you?

A feminist