Respondent 920

Does patriarchy exist?

Yes

How would you define patriarchy?

Patriarchy is a social system in which: males hold primary power; males predominate in roles of political leadership, moral authority, social privilege and control of property; and, in the domain of the family, fathers or father-figures hold authority over women and children

How has patriarchy hurt you?

People don’t listen to the smartest people in a room, they often listen to those that are loud, confident and dynamic.

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

Given opportunities before others based on gender and stereotypes.

How would you define masculinity?

Comfort within yourself.

Does misandry exist?

Maybe

I had to Google misandry

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

Only in a way that has advantaged me

I’m in the armed forces,a highly male heavy vocation.

What best describes you?

Nice guy

Respondent 906

Does patriarchy exist?

Yes

How would you define patriarchy?

Organised male control of society to the exclusion of women

How has patriarchy hurt you?

it hasn’t. I’m a man

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

Accidentally

How would you define masculinity?

man-ness

Does misandry exist?

Maybe

Men often deserve to be hated

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

Only in a way that has advantaged me

the guilt! the guilt!

What best describes you?

An ally to feminism

Respondent 904

Does patriarchy exist?

Yes

How would you define patriarchy?

Grinding, crushing grimness.

How has patriarchy hurt you?

In the same way it has hurt everyone, except less so because I’m a guy.

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

I would hope that I have not. Reflixivity!

How would you define masculinity?

Something done by other people.

Does misandry exist?

Maybe

Conceptually, not practically.

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

Yes

What best describes you?

A feminist

Respondent 884

Does patriarchy exist?

Yes

How would you define patriarchy?

The economic, social and cultural system that praises the masculine and dismisses or mocks the feminine.

How has patriarchy hurt you?

I am unable to show emotion the way I would like to for fear of being seen as weak or unmanly. I don’t think I would be taken seriously were I ever raped or assaulted.

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

I don’t know if I have. Calling girls sluts maybe?

How would you define masculinity?

Strong, powerful, steady.

Does misandry exist?

Maybe

If it does it’s nit common.

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

Only in a way that has advantaged me

What best describes you?

A feminist

Respondent 886

Does patriarchy exist?

Yes

How would you define patriarchy?

A self-perpetuating system of thinking and social organization whereby men are not situated, as everyone else is, but presented as the default. Anyone else is “having an emotional outburst”; I generally get the benefit of just being angry (unless there is another specific axis of oppression at work, like my disability, or if I was a man of colour or trans).

How has patriarchy hurt you?

Aside from the damage men do to women making it harder for me to develop close bonds with exactly the kind of women I get along with most i.e. women who are aware this is happening…My father believed men shouldn’t express vulnerability, so when he wouldn’t give me a ride home when I tweaked my knee, a 40-minute walk took three hours, and my knee hurt for about six months. My PTSD is because of patriarchy; any healing I’ve done is because of feminists.

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

When an ex told me she had been sexually assaulted the first thing I did was question how her actions contributed to it — so, gaslighting, rape apologism. I have since seen the magnitude of this and I know it’s because of how I was conditioned to respond, but the damage was still done, and I 100% appreciate her desire to keep me in her past. Thinking about how my first concern in that moment was whether she had cheated and not to offer a hug and say “It’s gonna be ok” and “I believe you” is very painful and a life lesson.

How would you define masculinity?

A sort of ableism of the human spirit. *I have a disability so I’m comfortable using ‘ableism’ in this context

Does misandry exist?

Maybe

Maybe, but misandry doesn’t shoot up college campuses, targeting one gender specifically. That would be misogyny. I might argue that trans exclusionary feminists, in their misguided attacks on trans women (who are women, let me be clear), have some deep and misplaced hatred for men present — but even then that shows up functionally as transmisogyny, not misandry.

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

Maybe

Cute story: I was looking at the “Women’s” sandwich board outside a salon/barbershop b/c I wanted to get my hair curled. Proprietor taps on the window from inside, looks at me and points at the “Men’s” sandwich board. Policing a gender binary was important enough to him that he was willing to risk losing a customer (which he did). Amazing, right?

What best describes you?

None of the above

I don’t call myself an ally, I try to live my life in such a way that, hopefully, *other people* would call me one.

Respondent 879

Does patriarchy exist?

Yes

How would you define patriarchy?

Yet another label

How has patriarchy hurt you?

It’s hasn’t. Neither has feminism.

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

No. I am not ‘patriarchal’ nor any other label. I just happen to have been born a man.

How would you define masculinity?

A word that is used to provide a label.

Does misandry exist?

Maybe

Another label.

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

Yes

shit happens.

What best describes you?

None of the above

Enough with the labels

Respondent 870

Does patriarchy exist?

Yes

How would you define patriarchy?

The power of men on women

How has patriarchy hurt you?

Because I cannot have heathly rapport with the women i love. Because even if I found the patriarchy horrible, being a men give me thousand of advantage i use everyday without being aware off.

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

I rape my girlfriend. Because i did not know what rape was

How would you define masculinity?

The same of feminity ? I don’t know, and i don’t care what feminity and masculinity, sorry ^^

Does misandry exist?

Maybe

I don’t know, it’s like white racism, can we really talk about something sexist or racist when it’s touch the more powerfull ?

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

Yes

What best describes you?

An ally to feminism

White, cis genre men, it’s difficult to idendify myself as a feminist.

Respondent 866

Does patriarchy exist?

Yes

How would you define patriarchy?

The societal system by which the attributes of “masculinity” are given disproportionate power at the expense of those not holding such attributes.

How has patriarchy hurt you?

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How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

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How would you define masculinity?

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Does misandry exist?

Maybe

I feel saying yes would imply I believe it exists and is a widespread problem. I am sure it can exist and some people might irrationally hate men, but it is not a widespread, common or important problem.

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

Maybe

What best describes you?

An ally to feminism

Respondent 858

Does patriarchy exist?

Yes

How would you define patriarchy?

The assumption that males are superior in certain roles (politics, business, finance)

How has patriarchy hurt you?

it hasn’t, I’m male

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

assumed id be better at a certain job or action due to my gender, not my abilities.

How would you define masculinity?

The desire to be dominant amongst peers male or female

Does misandry exist?

Maybe

I don’t think I’ve ever personally experienced it

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

Yes

Assumption I wouldn’t be fit to look after a child

What best describes you?

An equalist

Respondent 835

Does patriarchy exist?

Yes

How would you define patriarchy?

Beyond the strict anthropological definition of the word, patriarchy is used to refer to the system of male priveledging that values men and (and the ever changing ideal of) masculinity over women and those who do not fit a masculine-male model.

How has patriarchy hurt you?

Patriarchy, in as much as it represents in one word the current status of the social construction of masculinity, is hurtful to men by way of restricting freedom of expression, imposing unrealistic hegemonic ideals, and many other ways that come about through the perpetuation of patriarchal norms.

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

Simply by being part of it. You can’t be neutral on a moving train, and I was. Inactivity is an active vote for the status quo.

How would you define masculinity?

System of expectations relating to the socially constructed patterns of behaviors recognized as ideally attributable to men.

Does misandry exist?

Maybe

Does it exist? Maybe. But it’s about as effective an argument against feminist endeavor as ‘Reverse racism’ is to civil rights. Which is to say not at all.

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

No

What best describes you?

A feminist