Respondent 984

Does patriarchy exist?

Yes

How would you define patriarchy?

A society in which men hold most power, socially, culturally, politically, etc.

How has patriarchy hurt you?

I have, since birth, been influenced by the norms of the patriarchy without me even realising it. Influence without consent or even awareness is usually called indoctrination.

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

By in turn reinforcing the norms I was indoctrinated with.

How would you define masculinity?

I wouldn’t. People develop their own identities which may or may not be identified with their gender an.d/or sex

Does misandry exist?

Maybe

But 99.999999% of what is called misandry isn’t.

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

Only in a way that has advantaged me

What best describes you?

An ally to feminism

Not completely sure if a man should call himself a feminist, as his number one roll is probably to get out of the way.

Respondent 983

Does patriarchy exist?

Yes

How would you define patriarchy?

As a somewhat undirected / embedded system that defines and exerts pressure on people based on their sex / gender. This affects peoples’ behaviour, career, appearance and many other things – and also our expectations / reactions to people who go against this expectation. It certainly most negatively affects women in terms of control and power for themselves and in the world – everything from being paid less to do the same job to feelings of how one should appear.

How has patriarchy hurt you?

Mainly in terms of feeling empathy for women who have suffered the negative effects of patriarchal systems / behaviours. In a small way, personally in terms of the expectations the media / group mentality place on being male. This manifested in feeling obliged to act in certain more traditionally masculine ways, which ultimately made me quite sad and stopped me developing into a more rounded, happier person.

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

Before reading feminist viewpoints and coming to a better understanding of patriarchy, I was undoubtedly guiltily of propagating the system. Mainly in terms of expectations of what and how women should be. I certainly had a bit of a ‘nice guy’ complex in my teens / early 20s, and felt hard done by with women, which is unfair and a bit immature. This all would have been somewhat unwittingly and ignorantly, but that’s how insidious the patriarchal system is though – it doesn’t always look especially bad or feel like you’re doing anything wrong.

How would you define masculinity?

I think and hope that it’s changing from a traditional tough, confident, strong, hetero ‘laddy’ type to one that’s broader and more accepting of all kinds of males. Taken further, it becomes a pointless term if it encompasses all kinds of behaviours and traits and becomes a synonym for ‘male’. I don’t like the idea that certain behaviours are more associated with men and some with women – it seems a bit ridiculous and like an outdated way of thinking. That said, we have to work in the world we live in – so if it is useful to broaden the definition to include more men in progressive work, then that’s cool.

Does misandry exist?

Maybe

I think any systematic negative things men experience are also part of patriarchal systems. I guess it might be a useful word for extreme forms of radical feminism (ie. the idea that all men should die, for eg.)

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

Only in a way that has advantaged me

What best describes you?

A feminist

Respondent 971

Does patriarchy exist?

No

How would you define patriarchy?

SJW’s

How has patriarchy hurt you?

It’s an invention so by definition it couldn’t have? But obviously the behavior of those who believe it is real has hurt me so… It turned a bunch of insecure people into monsters who go around creating a culture of fear and hate which is no fun to live in.

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

The very notion of doing to others what I don’t want done to myself disgusts me.

How would you define masculinity?

Are you trying to trip me into attributing something to being male which has nothing to do with it? I don’t know and any attempt at answering this question would tell you more about me and what I’d project onto my idea of a decent human being than what masculinity actually is. How about biological traits? I guess a masculine person would exhibit the biological markers of a male? And for those who don’t or break the mold well I guess we should just be tolerant of the way they are and be decent human beings to them.

Does misandry exist?

Maybe

Getting called a monster by women over and over because of something someone else did makes you wonder…

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

Yes

From SJW’s

What best describes you?

Don’t all those choices mean the same thing?

Respondent 968

Does patriarchy exist?

Yes

How would you define patriarchy?

Male dominance

How has patriarchy hurt you?

Other males believing they have power over female friends and family

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

sexist remarks or jokes

How would you define masculinity?

providing protection and strength for anyone who needs it. There is the old world view of masculinity being strong men and dominant but that is changing, more men are finding the importance of their femininity at the same time as being masculine.

Does misandry exist?

Maybe

Only in certain extreme circumstances

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

No

What best describes you?

Nice guy

Respondent 955

Does patriarchy exist?

Yes

How would you define patriarchy?

A social system where men hold the significant majority of social, political, economical power and this is seen normal.

How has patriarchy hurt you?

The patriarchy assumes ideas about gender roles that are very binary and then idealises those who conform to these ideas. This has created social expectations of me that do not resonate with me – e.g. competitiveness, hetronormativity, dominance.

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

During job recruitment processes, I rate women who have been away from work for long periods of time lower (due to their lack of experience) but this is a result of the patriarchy expecting women take time off to raise children.

How would you define masculinity?

The attributes associated with ‘manliness’. Masculinity includes ideas such as ‘men as the primary earner’, ‘men need to compete/be dominating’, ‘men are assertive and good leaders’.

Does misandry exist?

Maybe

Misandry might exist, but not in any Western culture

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

Yes

Both for being too masculine and not masculine enough

What best describes you?

None of the above

A random guy

Respondent 969

Does patriarchy exist?

Yes

How would you define patriarchy?

A society organized to the advantage of a privileged few on the basis particularly of gender but also of race and sexuality.

How has patriarchy hurt you?

It probably hasn’t particularly, other than in a neurotic sense – ie, I know that as a man (and a straight, white man at that) the deck is stacked hugely in my favour. It makes any failure very depressing because the world is arranged to be advantageous to my kind, meaning that any failure in anything means that I am totally useless. Losing a card game when you know the deck is stacked in your favour can be depressing. (N.B. while this is a bit like whining about a minor cut when people around me are dying, I do think the mental health implications of what I have said are genuine and not trivial) I also think that as a younger man I will have been affected by trying to live up to a ridiculous ideal or role that my gender says I’m supposed to play. It takes a while to free oneself from those expectations, if one ever truly can.

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

I think I have probably not been sensitive enough to the ways in which is grinds other people down. Sometimes those of us privileged by it don’t necessarily see the rest. Maybe even by having a job or achieving anything I am only able to do that because I am privileged by my gender and race. By implication then any success always necessarily comes at the expense of someone else without those advantages. The system is such that my existence hurts people.

How would you define masculinity?

Aspects of ones character, attitude or emotional makeup pertaining to being male. It can therefore be anything. Any attempt to call a particular character trait, attitude or emotion as definitive of masculinity is in my view wrong (but is likely a symptom of patriarchy)

Does misandry exist?

Maybe

To some degree it does, but essentially it’s just another side of misogyny and a symptom of patriarchy. If it does exist it’s really just misogyny. A hatred of men implies a hatred of, or at least a disrepect of women. The issue is much more complicated than simple misandry though. It only exists insofar as patriarchy breeds resentment, but caving to that resentment is essentially misogyny, because you can’t hate one gender without the implicit hatred of one’s own. I definitely haven’t expressed this properly.

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

No

Not that I know of at least. I do remember an English lesson in school where the teacher asked all the boys in the class to say the word ‘love’. The teacher said the experiment proved that boys can’t really say love and have trouble with concept. As an experiment, all I can say of it is that I don’t think it would pass peer review.

What best describes you?

A feminist

Though I find all such labels and terms problematic in some ways. Whether I have a right to call myself a feminist isn’t my decision. I believe that all genders should have exactly the same rights, responsibilities and opportunities, and that this is currently not the case in our society. What term you want to apply to that does not really concern me. I think I’m a feminist but if anyone wants to tell me I’m not then that’s fine.

Respondent 951

Does patriarchy exist?

Yes

How would you define patriarchy?

The systematic oppression of women in all walks of society.

How has patriarchy hurt you?

It hasn’t, really. I guess since becoming Moreno aware of patriarchy I’ve become much less tolerant of misogynistic attitudes and comments which has resulted in the breakdown of many of my friendships (with men, obviously).

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

Too many to list. Neglected women I know and have had relationships with due to my ignorance and lack of understanding.

How would you define masculinity?

A charade, propping up the idea that men should behave a certain way to everyone’s detriment.

Does misandry exist?

Maybe

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

Only in a way that has advantaged me

What best describes you?

An ally to feminism

I would like to consider myself a feminist but also aware that just by being a man this may prevent me from being one, in the eyes of some.

Respondent 946

Does patriarchy exist?

Yes

How would you define patriarchy?

men first

How has patriarchy hurt you?

gender rift hurts anyone who thinks about it

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

maybe I’ve taken it for granted

How would you define masculinity?

bullshit

Does misandry exist?

Maybe

minimal

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

Only in a way that has advantaged me

What best describes you?

An equalist

Respondent 938

Does patriarchy exist?

Yes

How would you define patriarchy?

As a male, I’m already winning before anyone has started a proverbial race.

How has patriarchy hurt you?

Apart from the odd angry comment not even about or to me on twitter, it hasn’t.

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

I sincerely hope I haven’t, but I wouldn’t be surprised if I’ve managed to get a bit closer to a job interview (for example) simply by being a man.

How would you define masculinity?

According to all the adverts I see, it’s all about the muscles and grooming. I would say it’s probably just providing for family, not being a dick?

Does misandry exist?

Maybe

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

Yes

I’m a male nurse (and straight) and I get a bit of grief from some patients about that.

What best describes you?

An ally to feminism

Respondent 934

Does patriarchy exist?

Yes

How would you define patriarchy?

well the start of that word, “pat” is the clue, “PATronising” to women and a “PAThetic” view of status and humanity . . .

How has patriarchy hurt you?

personally, as a middle aged white man – it hurts me from my being “tarred” with that brush of being, well, a middle aged white man (most of the patriarchs are white men of this age).

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

Respondent skipped question

How would you define masculinity?

I wouldn’t . . . there is nobody quite like me, or you, or him or that guy over there . . . if it is a guy, I can’t tell – oh, and that is fine by the way . . .

Does misandry exist?

Maybe

I am hedging my bets with “maybe” it is what I say when I am asked something I don’t know – I am a man after all.

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

Only in a way that has advantaged me

possibly in the sense that I have had opportunities probably afforded to me because of my gender.

What best describes you?

An egalitarian