Respondent 988

Does patriarchy exist?

Yes

How would you define patriarchy?

The tendency of men to dominate resources, relationships and public discourse.

How has patriarchy hurt you?

It hasn’t.

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

I don’t think I am influenced by patriarchy, in my view it is an emergent property of society. I may have hurt people by being an insensitive dick though.

How would you define masculinity?

I would try not to.

Does misandry exist?

Yes

it is logically inescapable that it exists, but whether it is on any great consequence is a different question.

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

Yes

it doesn’t really matter to me, but people presumed to know what I am going to think based on the way I look and the fact that I am a conventional looking dude.

What best describes you?

An equalist

ultimately I think all people have an equal right to exist, but life is competitive, there is not an equal right to success.

Respondent 987

Does patriarchy exist?

Yes

How would you define patriarchy?

A cultural dictatorship that damages all of us

How has patriarchy hurt you?

It made me blind to my male privilege for decades

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

I’ve made assumptions and decisions from a position of privilege that I hadn’t recognised as privilege.

How would you define masculinity?

True masculinity is as individual as the person defining it.

Does misandry exist?

Yes

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

Yes

What best describes you?

None of the above

Human

Respondent 986

Does patriarchy exist?

Yes

How would you define patriarchy?

The father being the decision maker in the family, rather than the mother.

How has patriarchy hurt you?

Maybe there has been a decision that my father has made when my mother has more knowledge, making the situation unfair.

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

I’m not sure I have, I’d need examples.

How would you define masculinity?

Where a man is overtly strong and decisive.

Does misandry exist?

I don’t know what misandry is!

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

Yes

Sometimes women will claim that you don’t understand something because you’re a man. Also, as the man, you shoulder more blame in relationships as you’re deemed less sensitive and in tune with feelings, regardless of personality, because you’re a man.

What best describes you?

An ally to feminism

Respondent 981

Does patriarchy exist?

Yes

How would you define patriarchy?

It’s a dad being in charge of a family

How has patriarchy hurt you?

It hasn’t really as my mum was a strong woman so kept my dad in check when he stepped out of line. Saying that, I feel that my dad’s attitude to my mum’s mental health problems and how we were to deal with it as a family was partially responsible for her mental state not improving which eventually leading to her suicide.

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

I’m a teacher so adopt the role of “big brother” in the classroom. While I try to lead by example and impart knowledge in a positive way, I do often regress back to my childhood days and treat the pupils as I would my younger sisters.

How would you define masculinity?

The feeling of being male

Does misandry exist?

I don’t know what misandry is!

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

Yes

What best describes you?

Nice guy

Respondent 979

Does patriarchy exist?

No

How would you define patriarchy?

I don’t know what it is

How has patriarchy hurt you?

unknown

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

i am not sure if I have

How would you define masculinity?

Me

Does misandry exist?

I don’t know what misandry is!

Is he some sort of drag queen?

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

Yes

My wife’s family are ‘strong women’ and hard to deal with

What best describes you?

Nice guy

I am sometimes actually called “nice guy” so I plumped for that

Respondent 978

Does patriarchy exist?

Yes

How would you define patriarchy?

it is a system of power structures, social norms and assumptions put in place to preserve the status quo of those in power, mostly wealthy white men.

How has patriarchy hurt you?

Not being born a wealthy white man, I’m at a disadvantage in almost all aspects of life, education (didn’t manage to get an academic degree), finances (not making a profit off my little savings). On a more personal emotional level, having internalized masculinity my ability to deal with emotions and express them has been inhibited to the point that I require professional help to unlearn some of the habits and behaviors ascribed to be by masculinity.

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

Since it’s difficult for me to relate and empathize with people of different social class, color, gender or ethnicity other than my own, or white, I’ve ended up ignoring the needs, cries for help or basic human decency of such people. For example ignoring homeless people on the street asking for some help.

How would you define masculinity?

A set of very arbitrary rules governing the behavior and to a great extent the inner world of men, dictating certain ways a man must look, behave and think in order to be “worthy” of being regarded as a man.

Does misandry exist?

No

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

Yes

mostly in ways that have advantaged me, but also in a very small number of cases in ways that have disadvantaged me.

What best describes you?

A feminist

Respondent 975

Does patriarchy exist?

No

How would you define patriarchy?

A global conspiracy where every man in the world is oppressing women.

How has patriarchy hurt you?

Like all myths it hasn’t.

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

Again your question assumes that this massive conspiracy exists. It doesn’t.

How would you define masculinity?

Expression of the hormones released due to a Y chromosome being present.

Does misandry exist?

Yes

sexism of all forms certainly exists. it’s the conspiracy that doesn’t.

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

Yes

both positive and negative.

What best describes you?

An equalist

Respondent 976

Does patriarchy exist?

Yes

How would you define patriarchy?

A system of constructs that keeps men in a dominant and privileged position.

How has patriarchy hurt you?

Yes. Gender can be a construct too. I might have a penis and I might be heterosexual, but that does not mean I am the “man” that culture defines. Often people/society project an image of “man” on me that does not fit me at all, and (for example) expect me to make fun of women and their capabilities (as a programmer, as a car driver, …). I am privileged because of my biological sex and sexual orientation. I am hurt when I am confronted with the consequences of that privilege. Strongly feeling people are all inherently equal, I strongly despise this kind of system. That said, I think the way patriarchy hurts me is nothing compared to the damage patriarchy does to women.

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

I could do more with my privileges: I could be an ally more often. And I have been ignorant too often – even if we consider ourselves as “trying to do what is ethically correct as much as we can”, we still need to inform ourselves. I’ve consumed porn, and this way supported the porn industry, which is a strong pillar of patriarchy in the west (abuse and objectification of women as part of the free market, to be “consumed”).

How would you define masculinity?

A set of constructs legitimizing itself by pointing to some biological aspects that are shared by around 50% of the population.

Does misandry exist?

Yes

All people are capable of hating others based on their skin/gender/…

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

Yes

I do not fit in the mold society expects me too, but many people still act as if I do or should do.

What best describes you?

A feminist

Respondent 974

Does patriarchy exist?

Yes

How would you define patriarchy?

Patriarchy is an interpersonal political system, an earmarked provision of the social contract. It creates an environment of reward and punishment, servitude and fear and self-hatred, centered around an arbitrary idea of gender. Patriarchy makes it costly or deadly not to falsify yourself in its name.

How has patriarchy hurt you?

Patriarchy means that when I’m single I don’t get to touch anyone except for a handshake. Patriarchy told me that by feeling, I had failed, and that I had to stop crying, which of course I could never, because having begun to cry, I had already failed. Patriarchy caused me to ignore even the possibility that I was not really a boy for thirty years. Patriarchy made me accept for my whole life that I was the weird one. Patriarchy rewarded everyone who enforced all of this, parents, lovers, employers, civil servants, and strangers who shout “faggot” out of car windows.

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

Uncountable ways. Every time I did anything in order to be cool, I was selling out myself and all of us to patriarchy. I pandered to it, asked for its favor, and offered individuals as sacrifice. I was the instrument of its punishments.

How would you define masculinity?

Masculinity is a demon that crippled me until I decided it was wrong and stopped feeding it.

Does misandry exist?

No

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

Yes

What best describes you?

A feminist

Respondent 971

Does patriarchy exist?

No

How would you define patriarchy?

SJW’s

How has patriarchy hurt you?

It’s an invention so by definition it couldn’t have? But obviously the behavior of those who believe it is real has hurt me so… It turned a bunch of insecure people into monsters who go around creating a culture of fear and hate which is no fun to live in.

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

The very notion of doing to others what I don’t want done to myself disgusts me.

How would you define masculinity?

Are you trying to trip me into attributing something to being male which has nothing to do with it? I don’t know and any attempt at answering this question would tell you more about me and what I’d project onto my idea of a decent human being than what masculinity actually is. How about biological traits? I guess a masculine person would exhibit the biological markers of a male? And for those who don’t or break the mold well I guess we should just be tolerant of the way they are and be decent human beings to them.

Does misandry exist?

Maybe

Getting called a monster by women over and over because of something someone else did makes you wonder…

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

Yes

From SJW’s

What best describes you?

Don’t all those choices mean the same thing?