Respondent 994

Does patriarchy exist?

Yes

How would you define patriarchy?

The systematic, historically ingrained, and societally internalised privileging of men over women.

How has patriarchy hurt you?

Pressure to look/act/behave a certain way (especially towards women) to “be a man”. Insecurity. Limited exposure to the diversity of women in industry and entertainment. Comments like “if you think this web page works, get your mum or your wife to try using it [and watch how they screw up]”.

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

Sexist jokes, blinkered view of the “role” of women in society, objectification of women.

How would you define masculinity?

The heteronormative, ableist construction of desirable male attributes and behaviours.

Does misandry exist?

No

What MRAs describe as “misandry” is basically just women wanting human dignity.

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

Only in a way that has advantaged me

What best describes you?

A feminist

Social Justice Cleric

Respondent 989

Does patriarchy exist?

Yes

How would you define patriarchy?

Structures set up within society that oppress women and maintain inequality between the sexes

How has patriarchy hurt you?

toxic masculinity, saying that men can’t be raped

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

objectified women, policed their bodies

How would you define masculinity?

a social construct of behaviours including aggressive behaviours that are considered “manly”

Does misandry exist?

No

The oppressor can’t be oppressed

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

Only in a way that has advantaged me

What best describes you?

A feminist

Respondent 984

Does patriarchy exist?

Yes

How would you define patriarchy?

A society in which men hold most power, socially, culturally, politically, etc.

How has patriarchy hurt you?

I have, since birth, been influenced by the norms of the patriarchy without me even realising it. Influence without consent or even awareness is usually called indoctrination.

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

By in turn reinforcing the norms I was indoctrinated with.

How would you define masculinity?

I wouldn’t. People develop their own identities which may or may not be identified with their gender an.d/or sex

Does misandry exist?

Maybe

But 99.999999% of what is called misandry isn’t.

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

Only in a way that has advantaged me

What best describes you?

An ally to feminism

Not completely sure if a man should call himself a feminist, as his number one roll is probably to get out of the way.

Respondent 983

Does patriarchy exist?

Yes

How would you define patriarchy?

As a somewhat undirected / embedded system that defines and exerts pressure on people based on their sex / gender. This affects peoples’ behaviour, career, appearance and many other things – and also our expectations / reactions to people who go against this expectation. It certainly most negatively affects women in terms of control and power for themselves and in the world – everything from being paid less to do the same job to feelings of how one should appear.

How has patriarchy hurt you?

Mainly in terms of feeling empathy for women who have suffered the negative effects of patriarchal systems / behaviours. In a small way, personally in terms of the expectations the media / group mentality place on being male. This manifested in feeling obliged to act in certain more traditionally masculine ways, which ultimately made me quite sad and stopped me developing into a more rounded, happier person.

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

Before reading feminist viewpoints and coming to a better understanding of patriarchy, I was undoubtedly guiltily of propagating the system. Mainly in terms of expectations of what and how women should be. I certainly had a bit of a ‘nice guy’ complex in my teens / early 20s, and felt hard done by with women, which is unfair and a bit immature. This all would have been somewhat unwittingly and ignorantly, but that’s how insidious the patriarchal system is though – it doesn’t always look especially bad or feel like you’re doing anything wrong.

How would you define masculinity?

I think and hope that it’s changing from a traditional tough, confident, strong, hetero ‘laddy’ type to one that’s broader and more accepting of all kinds of males. Taken further, it becomes a pointless term if it encompasses all kinds of behaviours and traits and becomes a synonym for ‘male’. I don’t like the idea that certain behaviours are more associated with men and some with women – it seems a bit ridiculous and like an outdated way of thinking. That said, we have to work in the world we live in – so if it is useful to broaden the definition to include more men in progressive work, then that’s cool.

Does misandry exist?

Maybe

I think any systematic negative things men experience are also part of patriarchal systems. I guess it might be a useful word for extreme forms of radical feminism (ie. the idea that all men should die, for eg.)

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

Only in a way that has advantaged me

What best describes you?

A feminist

Respondent 982

Does patriarchy exist?

Yes

How would you define patriarchy?

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Does misandry exist?

Yes

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

Only in a way that has advantaged me

What best describes you?

A feminist

Respondent 977

Does patriarchy exist?

Yes

How would you define patriarchy?

Men’s rule over women.

How has patriarchy hurt you?

Made me rule over women when I’d no desire to rule at all.

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

Acted, or hoped to act, as if they were means to an end, or hoped to serve as means to an end.

How would you define masculinity?

Man-ness, as enacted, expected, expressed or imposed.

Does misandry exist?

No

Ha ha ha ha. Like “reverse racism” or “liberal democracy”.

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

Only in a way that has advantaged me

What best describes you?

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Respondent 973

Does patriarchy exist?

Yes

How would you define patriarchy?

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Does misandry exist?

Yes

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

Only in a way that has advantaged me

What best describes you?

An ally to feminism

Respondent 967

Does patriarchy exist?

Yes

How would you define patriarchy?

Enforcement of punitive hierarchies of power by an established oppressive “elite”.

How has patriarchy hurt you?

Enforcement of gender boundaries, being told that a behaviour is “girly” as if that were an insult. Being in a culture that hates women do much that being gay (and therefore not, somehow, male enough??) I shouldn’t exist. Years of depression and suicide attempts could have been avoided if maybe we were more OK as a society with women.

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

I daresay I have. I went to an all his grammar school, so had opportunities debuted to others. As a task white man, my vice is listened to add authoritative when I deserve no such position. This must harm others and myself every time I accept and act upon that privilege.

How would you define masculinity?

An unhelpful code of behaviour that seems at best archaic, but at worst, dangerous, destructive and utterly pointless.

Does misandry exist?

No

very rarely, if ever. mostly I see that used whenever someone thinks a woman or women should have even close to a fair deal. I daresay there’s some very rare senses where it might apply (support for male victims of rape, maybe?) but in general it seems to just be a term used to dismiss the voices of women.

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

Only in a way that has advantaged me

What best describes you?

An ally to feminism

I’d hope to be described as feminist, but I can’t be the one to do that as it’s another way to take agency from women.

Respondent 958

Does patriarchy exist?

Yes

How would you define patriarchy?

Systematized power imbalance based primarily on gender divisions

How has patriarchy hurt you?

made the world suboptimal Gives me shit to have to fight and fix every day

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

Probably Definitely

How would you define masculinity?

Set of characteristics most typically associated with maleness in our culture

Does misandry exist?

Yes

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

Only in a way that has advantaged me

What best describes you?

A feminist

Respondent 956

Does patriarchy exist?

Yes

How would you define patriarchy?

Male supremacist society.

How has patriarchy hurt you?

Made me nervous.

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

Unashamed selfishness.

How would you define masculinity?

Feeling no social pressure to shave legs.

Does misandry exist?

Yes

But statistically as dangerous as narwhal gorings.

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

Only in a way that has advantaged me

What best describes you?

An ally to feminism