Respondent 965

Does patriarchy exist?

Yes

How would you define patriarchy?

When men give each other advantages at the expense of other genders

How has patriarchy hurt you?

It’s been very good to me, as you’d expect. The only side effect is that any rebalancing of the odds feels like an injustice, or a slight to me personally. Of course it isn’t; it just FEELS like it.

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

In the workplace, I have genuinely tried to support female workers, often at my own expense. But socially… I guess as a teenager I wanted to fit in with other boys. That meant girls (and boys) were hurt. Verbally, I mean.

How would you define masculinity?

I’d like to think of it as the most positive, constructive attributes of the male gender: for me that’s about protection, teamwork, leadership. They’re not exclusively male, but that’s what masculinity feel like to me. But it’s subjective.

Does misandry exist?

I don’t know what misandry is!

I’ve now looked it up. It’s probably the feeling I refer to in (3) – but really it’s equality, or a rebalancing of the genders in society.

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

Yes

I’ve been passed for work on several occasions in a liberal organisation who were conscious of not having enough women in the department. I totally understand why, but I can’t ignore the reason. If anything, I need to own it.

What best describes you?

A feminist

Respondent 958

Does patriarchy exist?

Yes

How would you define patriarchy?

Systematized power imbalance based primarily on gender divisions

How has patriarchy hurt you?

made the world suboptimal Gives me shit to have to fight and fix every day

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

Probably Definitely

How would you define masculinity?

Set of characteristics most typically associated with maleness in our culture

Does misandry exist?

Yes

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

Only in a way that has advantaged me

What best describes you?

A feminist

Respondent 960

Does patriarchy exist?

Yes

How would you define patriarchy?

systematic and abusive control of human action resulting in denigration of women; narrowing the possibilities of what identities and lives might be and become.

How has patriarchy hurt you?

By creating � narrow space for what i can identify as.

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

mansplaining to My kids, manic production of pun Jokes, leaving little space for relatives to flourish in

How would you define masculinity?

Swag and style: han solo, Aragorn, Clooney, viggo mortenson, etc. Lifestyle leading to coercion of directions (material, symbolic, biological, etc)

Does misandry exist?

Yes

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

Only in a way that has advantaged me

What best describes you?

A feminist

Respondent 954

Does patriarchy exist?

Yes

How would you define patriarchy?

A system which aggressively polices gender roles, in which men are expected to control and dominate, and women to care and nurture.

How has patriarchy hurt you?

It limits my self-expression.

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

I find myself talking over women. And I find myself judging women on what they’re wearing in a way that I wouldn’t do if they were male. And I sometimes mis-gender trans people.

How would you define masculinity?

The qualities associated with being a man.

Does misandry exist?

No

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

Only in a way that has advantaged me

What best describes you?

A feminist

Respondent 969

Does patriarchy exist?

Yes

How would you define patriarchy?

A society organized to the advantage of a privileged few on the basis particularly of gender but also of race and sexuality.

How has patriarchy hurt you?

It probably hasn’t particularly, other than in a neurotic sense – ie, I know that as a man (and a straight, white man at that) the deck is stacked hugely in my favour. It makes any failure very depressing because the world is arranged to be advantageous to my kind, meaning that any failure in anything means that I am totally useless. Losing a card game when you know the deck is stacked in your favour can be depressing. (N.B. while this is a bit like whining about a minor cut when people around me are dying, I do think the mental health implications of what I have said are genuine and not trivial) I also think that as a younger man I will have been affected by trying to live up to a ridiculous ideal or role that my gender says I’m supposed to play. It takes a while to free oneself from those expectations, if one ever truly can.

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

I think I have probably not been sensitive enough to the ways in which is grinds other people down. Sometimes those of us privileged by it don’t necessarily see the rest. Maybe even by having a job or achieving anything I am only able to do that because I am privileged by my gender and race. By implication then any success always necessarily comes at the expense of someone else without those advantages. The system is such that my existence hurts people.

How would you define masculinity?

Aspects of ones character, attitude or emotional makeup pertaining to being male. It can therefore be anything. Any attempt to call a particular character trait, attitude or emotion as definitive of masculinity is in my view wrong (but is likely a symptom of patriarchy)

Does misandry exist?

Maybe

To some degree it does, but essentially it’s just another side of misogyny and a symptom of patriarchy. If it does exist it’s really just misogyny. A hatred of men implies a hatred of, or at least a disrepect of women. The issue is much more complicated than simple misandry though. It only exists insofar as patriarchy breeds resentment, but caving to that resentment is essentially misogyny, because you can’t hate one gender without the implicit hatred of one’s own. I definitely haven’t expressed this properly.

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

No

Not that I know of at least. I do remember an English lesson in school where the teacher asked all the boys in the class to say the word ‘love’. The teacher said the experiment proved that boys can’t really say love and have trouble with concept. As an experiment, all I can say of it is that I don’t think it would pass peer review.

What best describes you?

A feminist

Though I find all such labels and terms problematic in some ways. Whether I have a right to call myself a feminist isn’t my decision. I believe that all genders should have exactly the same rights, responsibilities and opportunities, and that this is currently not the case in our society. What term you want to apply to that does not really concern me. I think I’m a feminist but if anyone wants to tell me I’m not then that’s fine.

Respondent 950

Does patriarchy exist?

Yes

How would you define patriarchy?

Not even blindness. Utterly ingrained, utterly invisible. It’s there in the same way gravity is.

How has patriarchy hurt you?

Inequality

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

Tried not to

How would you define masculinity?

XY

Does misandry exist?

Yes

And it’s about as prevalent as people who hate penguins.

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

Yes

Insane recruitment decisions

What best describes you?

A feminist

Now becoming aware.

Respondent 949

Does patriarchy exist?

Yes

How would you define patriarchy?

Mafia style man-tribe in charge for ages.

How has patriarchy hurt you?

Half the world are overconfident and the other half is insecure.

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

I’ve definitely accused people of throwing like a girl.

How would you define masculinity?

A disinterest in cupcakes?

Does misandry exist?

Yes

It’s irrelevant compared to the crimes of patriarchy.

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

Yes

Women-only sessions at the pool. Bastards! And the lifestyle articles getting in the way of my broadsheet news consumption.

What best describes you?

A feminist

Respondent 941

Does patriarchy exist?

Yes

How would you define patriarchy?

A society and/or sociopolitical system ruled primarily or entirely by men.

How has patriarchy hurt you?

I don’t think it’s hurt me specifically, but it’s hurt me by proxy through how it’s damaged and disenfranchised the women in my life. My girlfriend thinks she’s too fat, when she’s absolutely not. I have several female friends who have been raped and nothing has been done about it. I saw my mother struggle to achieve professional goals a man with her knowledge, skills and experience would breeze through. It hurts me by seeing these women I love get pushed back and hurt and ignored.

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

I hope I haven’t. I try to be as honest and decent as possible to everyone. Maybe when I was a boy or a teenager things may have happened that meant I was directly advantaged through patriarchy. Nothing specific or major comes to mind.

How would you define masculinity?

Being a man! For me that’s drinking lager, snorting cocaine, watching the football, listening to loud rock music, admiring beautiful women, having a laugh and a banter with my friends, eating good food, and always having a sharp suit and a leather jacket on standby. But that’s my hetero normative definition of being a man. Some men feel manly by having tea parties with their daughters, by dressing up in women’s clothes, by having sex with another guy. That’s all masculine too. For me, being a man is about being yourself. It’s about being honest and good to everyone you encounter, and using your strength, logic and understanding to help the world be a better place, however little you contribute.

Does misandry exist?

Yes

Of course it does. I’ve seen it with my own eyes. “All men are bastards” has literally come out of the mouths of several women I know. I know a girl who said she once made her boyfriend apologise for having a penis. Yeah. Obviously it’s not as commonplace as misogyny, and not nearly as destructive, but it clearly exists.

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

Yes

Too many times to recount, and sometimes in a negative way. Mostly it’s been advantageous to me. But I have been disadvantaged in several situations by virtue of being a man. It cuts both ways. Again, it’s not nearly as bad for me as it is for women, but it exists all the same.

What best describes you?

A feminist

Respondent 940

Does patriarchy exist?

Yes

How would you define patriarchy?

The oppression of men and women based on the assumed inferiority of all things perceived as ‘feminine’

How has patriarchy hurt you?

I’m a transgender man, and I’m constantly being told I’m not a ‘real man’ because I embrace the fact I’m not cis, I eschew toxic masculinity, and I fight for the rights of women.

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

I’m not sure that I have; living as a woman for 20 years, I don’t believe I oppressed or hurt anyone because of the power of the patriarchy.

How would you define masculinity?

Masculinity is what any given man makes of it.

Does misandry exist?

No

It does not; being fed up with harassment and abuse is not the same as misogyny.

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

Yes

What best describes you?

A feminist

Respondent 937

Does patriarchy exist?

Yes

How would you define patriarchy?

I would struggle to put it into words.

How has patriarchy hurt you?

I don’t know. Possibly it’s held me back, but I don’t think by much.

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

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How would you define masculinity?

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Does misandry exist?

I don’t know what misandry is!

You could have given a definition.

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

Yes

In both ways that have disadvantaged me and advantaged me. More to my advantage. I have frequently seen both men and women react more favourably to me based on my gender. There are a lor of undiagnosed misogynists out there.

What best describes you?

A feminist