About the show: Dave Pickering takes us on a personal journey through gender as he tries to explain masculinity both to you and to himself. Part true storytelling, part TED talk and part apology, the show looks at how the patriarchy hurts men too; how the patriarchy has hurt him, and how he has hurt people because of patriarchy. Drawing on an anonymous survey of 1000 men, feminist theory, internet memes and his life experience, Dave will explain the conclusions he Read More ...
Does patriarchy exist?
How would you define patriarchy?
it is a system of power structures, social norms and assumptions put in place to preserve the status quo of those in power, mostly wealthy white men.
How has patriarchy hurt you?
Not being born a wealthy white man, I’m at a disadvantage in almost all aspects of life, education (didn’t manage to get an academic degree), finances (not making a profit off my little savings). On a more personal emotional level, having internalized masculinity my ability to deal with emotions and express them has been inhibited to the point that I require professional help to unlearn some of the habits and behaviors ascribed to be by masculinity.
How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?
Since it’s difficult for me to relate and empathize with people of different social class, color, gender or ethnicity other than my own, or white, I’ve ended up ignoring the needs, cries for help or basic human decency of such people. For example ignoring homeless people on the street asking for some help.
How would you define masculinity?
A set of very arbitrary rules governing the behavior and to a great extent the inner world of men, dictating certain ways a man must look, behave and think in order to be “worthy” of being regarded as a man.
Does misandry exist?
Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?
mostly in ways that have advantaged me, but also in a very small number of cases in ways that have disadvantaged me.
What best describes you?