About the show: Dave Pickering takes us on a personal journey through gender as he tries to explain masculinity both to you and to himself. Part true storytelling, part TED talk and part apology, the show looks at how the patriarchy hurts men too; how the patriarchy has hurt him, and how he has hurt people because of patriarchy. Drawing on an anonymous survey of 1000 men, feminist theory, internet memes and his life experience, Dave will explain the conclusions he Read More ...
Does patriarchy exist?
How would you define patriarchy?
Patriarchy is an interpersonal political system, an earmarked provision of the social contract. It creates an environment of reward and punishment, servitude and fear and self-hatred, centered around an arbitrary idea of gender. Patriarchy makes it costly or deadly not to falsify yourself in its name.
How has patriarchy hurt you?
Patriarchy means that when I’m single I don’t get to touch anyone except for a handshake. Patriarchy told me that by feeling, I had failed, and that I had to stop crying, which of course I could never, because having begun to cry, I had already failed. Patriarchy caused me to ignore even the possibility that I was not really a boy for thirty years. Patriarchy made me accept for my whole life that I was the weird one. Patriarchy rewarded everyone who enforced all of this, parents, lovers, employers, civil servants, and strangers who shout “faggot” out of car windows.
How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?
Uncountable ways. Every time I did anything in order to be cool, I was selling out myself and all of us to patriarchy. I pandered to it, asked for its favor, and offered individuals as sacrifice. I was the instrument of its punishments.
How would you define masculinity?
Masculinity is a demon that crippled me until I decided it was wrong and stopped feeding it.
Does misandry exist?
Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?
What best describes you?