About the show: Dave Pickering takes us on a personal journey through gender as he tries to explain masculinity both to you and to himself. Part true storytelling, part TED talk and part apology, the show looks at how the patriarchy hurts men too; how the patriarchy has hurt him, and how he has hurt people because of patriarchy. Drawing on an anonymous survey of 1000 men, feminist theory, internet memes and his life experience, Dave will explain the conclusions he Read More ...
Does patriarchy exist?
How would you define patriarchy?
When men give each other advantages at the expense of other genders
How has patriarchy hurt you?
It’s been very good to me, as you’d expect. The only side effect is that any rebalancing of the odds feels like an injustice, or a slight to me personally. Of course it isn’t; it just FEELS like it.
How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?
In the workplace, I have genuinely tried to support female workers, often at my own expense. But socially… I guess as a teenager I wanted to fit in with other boys. That meant girls (and boys) were hurt. Verbally, I mean.
How would you define masculinity?
I’d like to think of it as the most positive, constructive attributes of the male gender: for me that’s about protection, teamwork, leadership. They’re not exclusively male, but that’s what masculinity feel like to me. But it’s subjective.
Does misandry exist?
I don’t know what misandry is!
I’ve now looked it up. It’s probably the feeling I refer to in (3) – but really it’s equality, or a rebalancing of the genders in society.
Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?
I’ve been passed for work on several occasions in a liberal organisation who were conscious of not having enough women in the department. I totally understand why, but I can’t ignore the reason. If anything, I need to own it.
What best describes you?