Respondent 965

Does patriarchy exist?

Yes

How would you define patriarchy?

When men give each other advantages at the expense of other genders

How has patriarchy hurt you?

It’s been very good to me, as you’d expect. The only side effect is that any rebalancing of the odds feels like an injustice, or a slight to me personally. Of course it isn’t; it just FEELS like it.

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

In the workplace, I have genuinely tried to support female workers, often at my own expense. But socially… I guess as a teenager I wanted to fit in with other boys. That meant girls (and boys) were hurt. Verbally, I mean.

How would you define masculinity?

I’d like to think of it as the most positive, constructive attributes of the male gender: for me that’s about protection, teamwork, leadership. They’re not exclusively male, but that’s what masculinity feel like to me. But it’s subjective.

Does misandry exist?

I don’t know what misandry is!

I’ve now looked it up. It’s probably the feeling I refer to in (3) – but really it’s equality, or a rebalancing of the genders in society.

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

Yes

I’ve been passed for work on several occasions in a liberal organisation who were conscious of not having enough women in the department. I totally understand why, but I can’t ignore the reason. If anything, I need to own it.

What best describes you?

A feminist