About the show: Dave Pickering takes us on a personal journey through gender as he tries to explain masculinity both to you and to himself. Part true storytelling, part TED talk and part apology, the show looks at how the patriarchy hurts men too; how the patriarchy has hurt him, and how he has hurt people because of patriarchy. Drawing on an anonymous survey of 1000 men, feminist theory, internet memes and his life experience, Dave will explain the conclusions he Read More ...
Does patriarchy exist?
How would you define patriarchy?
As a burrito with sour cream
How has patriarchy hurt you?
Okay seriously, I’m kind of effeminite and bi and “traditional” ideas about masculinity have hurt me. I grew up being told not to be such a girl, I’ve taken a fair few beatings because of it. Sometimes I’d rather wear a pretty dress than “men’s” clothes. On the other hand, sometimes I think that “effeminite” isn’t really a thing. There are lots of butch lesbians who aren’t “effeminite” but they’re still women. Patriarchy pushes us into roles we may not be comfortable in or naturally fit into.
How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?
Before I admited to myself that I was bi I would use words like faggot a lot, but I think I was just being defensive.
How would you define masculinity?
As a large pizza… sorry I’m on a diet in order to fit into afor mentioned dresses and I’m really hungry
Does misandry exist?
I’m going to go with yes but not as a system of oppression and it’s not as bad as misogyny which is a systemic problem
Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?
Mostly because of opressive gender norms that I don’t fit into.
What best describes you?