Man Links #34: articles exploring issues around #Mansurvey

On Wednesdays I share articles and other links that I’ve come across over the last week, which touch on issues that crossover with the #ManSurvey.

(If these aren’t enough links for for you here are the previous posts including the Further Reading List for the show.)

Please be aware of a general content note: some of these links touch on sexual assault, rape, war, prejudice, suicide, prison, violence and other aspects of patriarchy. Also links to things that talk about how masculinity intersects with gender reflect the focus of some of the show, and should never be taken to imply that trans women are men.

Chuck Tingle thwarts devilman Vox Day, buys TheRabidPuppies.com for HARD buckaroos by David Futrelle on We Hunted The Mammoth

Meet the PAC Dedicated to Dissuading Straight White Men From Running for Office by Christina Cauterucci in Slate

I Was A Thirsty Male Feminist For A Day And It Was Exhausting by Ryan Broderick for Internet Explorer/Buzzfeed

Telling Trans Stories Beyond ‘Born in the wrong body’. a conversation between Meredith Talusan, Jacob Tobia, Tiq Milan and NicoFonseca for Buzzfeed

Not “gender critical” enough by Sam Hope on their website

 

The Stand Up Tragedy podcast has released some of our 2015 shows that focused on identity. The first episode was Stand Up Tragedy Presents: How To Be Fat. The second episode was Stand Up Tragedy Presents: Howl of the Bantee which is a show that intersects in many ways with my show and is concerned with many of the same issues. The third episode is my show: Stand Up Tragedy Presents: What About the Men? Mansplaining Masculinity. The most recent episode of the Getting Better Acquainted podcast is also very much in the #ManSurvey wheelhouse: GBA 252 Girl on the Net.

Guest blog posts and analysis of the survey are still very welcome. And please do get in touch if you use the #ManSurvey as research, as reference, as teaching material or in any other way,  I am really happy to signal boost and link to what you are doing.

Respondent 1003

Does patriarchy exist?

Yes

How would you define patriarchy?

Men rule

How has patriarchy hurt you?

Men cant make all the rules

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

Yes going by stereotype notion

How would you define masculinity?

Excess muscles

Does misandry exist?

Yes

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

Yes

What best describes you?

An egalitarian

Respondent 1002

Does patriarchy exist?

Yes

How would you define patriarchy?

As a burrito with sour cream

How has patriarchy hurt you?

Okay seriously, I’m kind of effeminite and bi and “traditional” ideas about masculinity have hurt me. I grew up being told not to be such a girl, I’ve taken a fair few beatings because of it. Sometimes I’d rather wear a pretty dress than “men’s” clothes. On the other hand, sometimes I think that “effeminite” isn’t really a thing. There are lots of butch lesbians who aren’t “effeminite” but they’re still women. Patriarchy pushes us into roles we may not be comfortable in or naturally fit into.

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

Before I admited to myself that I was bi I would use words like faggot a lot, but I think I was just being defensive.

How would you define masculinity?

As a large pizza… sorry I’m on a diet in order to fit into afor mentioned dresses and I’m really hungry

Does misandry exist?

I’m going to go with yes but not as a system of oppression and it’s not as bad as misogyny which is a systemic problem

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

Yes

Mostly because of opressive gender norms that I don’t fit into.

What best describes you?

A feminist

Respondent 1001

Does patriarchy exist?

Yes

How would you define patriarchy?

A system in which men hold the majority of public power and means to affect their environment to their advantage.

How has patriarchy hurt you?

It has pushed me into roles I cannot subscribe to and I find detrimental to my wellbeing (and that of other men). It has also left little room for women to affect their surroundings in a public and straightforward manner, imbuing their role with many issues and behaviors that have been harmful to me (and themselves).

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

By proxy, most likely. It’s a subtle thing sometimes.

How would you define masculinity?

I don’t. I see no value in historical behavior prescriptions based on gender when I can derive desirable traits in people from rationale and personal preference alone.

Does misandry exist?

Yes

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

Yes

What best describes you?

None of the above

Respondent 1000

Does patriarchy exist?

Yes

How would you define patriarchy?

A dominant social system that privileges straight cus white men over all other people.

How has patriarchy hurt you?

Social pressure to confirm to what society considers normal for men.

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

Learned and often unthinking prejudice against and stereotyped expectations of others.

How would you define masculinity?

Anything society deems inherent to men but not to women or other groups.

Does misandry exist?

No

In concept being anti-male exists but prejudice without power is almost meaningless.

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

Yes

What best describes you?

An ally to feminism

Respondent 999

Does patriarchy exist?

No

How would you define patriarchy?

A ruling class of men

How has patriarchy hurt you?

It hasn’t; it doesn’t exist

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

I hasn’t; it doesn’t exist

How would you define masculinity?

Acting and looking manly.

Does misandry exist?

I don’t know what misandry is!

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

Yes

I was picked on in my teens for not being manly enough and then told I had it great in my 20s because I’m a man.

What best describes you?

An egalitarian

Respondent 998

Does patriarchy exist?

Yes

How would you define patriarchy?

Men swinging their dicks around. Dominance, brutality, greed.

How has patriarchy hurt you?

Dudes in politics. Dudes in power, dudes everywhere making dumb dudes decisions.

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

I’m a dude. I suck. Despite being well read on the subject and being raised by my mother and grandmother I still make dumb dude decisions. I dick swing.

How would you define masculinity?

Being caring, capable, useful, strong, vulnerable, honest, opinionated, empathetic. Able to hug someone and reassure them, then fix a broken thing, then troubleshoot a problem, then fuck something up and admit it, then have a cry at the futility of existence, then cook a meal, then make some love without the focus being on my jizzy time and being open to having my butt explored by my female lover for happy fun time.

Does misandry exist?

I don’t know what misandry is!

This is man hating right? I hate some men. So yeah, it exists.

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

Yes

Some bitches hate me. And my ilk. Cos’ of my dangly bits. I kind of agree with them.

What best describes you?

An egalitarian

I had to look that up too. I’m so tired.

Respondent 997

Does patriarchy exist?

Yes

How would you define patriarchy?

Men do/receive all the good stuff, women not so much.

How has patriarchy hurt you?

My dad never hit me. My mother was quite differently arranged, however. Under the more typical definition, though, it hasn’t.

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

I’m not sure I have, knowingly, but I probably have, although I can’t recall a specific example.

How would you define masculinity?

I can probably lift things better than most, but not all, women.

Does misandry exist?

Yes

Hatred of everything exists. People are varied and weird.

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

Maybe

I find it odd that I can’t think of any examples of this. I’m sure I must have experienced a situation at some point, albeit one that did not directly affect me.

What best describes you?

An egalitarian

Respondent 996

Does patriarchy exist?

Yes

How would you define patriarchy?

Old fashioned customs

How has patriarchy hurt you?

I’m not aware of it hurting me.

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

Don’t think so.

How would you define masculinity?

Standing up for people and doing the right thing.

Does misandry exist?

Respondent skipped question

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

No

What best describes you?

An ally to feminism

Respondent 995

Does patriarchy exist?

Yes

How would you define patriarchy?

A society in which, men are the heads of families, heads of industry and heads of state and where men conspire to prevent women from attaining those positions of power.

How has patriarchy hurt you?

Respondent skipped question

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

No. I’m not a bloody catholic.

How would you define masculinity?

Being born with male genitalia

Does misandry exist?

Yes

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

Yes

constantly bullying at university by feminist staff, being marked down in any essay where I argued against the dogma of feminism, regardless of how well presented and referenced my work was.

What best describes you?

None of the above